It's time to put my mom (92) in assisted living. She was with her 82-year-old sister, but that is not working out. Where do I start?

You wrote this in April 2021: "I am 70 and up to this point was an avid golfer and enjoyed being outside. I have multiple myeloma (cancer) and although doing well, I want to be able to enjoy what time I have left. Putting her in Assisted Living is really not an option, she has two small dogs and taking those away from her would be devastating."

And now it is nearly two years later. Are you ready to put her in AL yet, even if you have to get rid of her dogs?

Also, in Aug 2020 you wrote that your mother couldn't come and live with you, yet that is what happened. Were you able to sell her house and evict your nephew? What happened to the proceeds of the house sale (if it sold)?

I hope that it will be your mother's funds financing any facility.

Most AL will allow pets as long as she can care for them.
The other option that might work is if they are "litter trained" and she can have someone come in and take the dogs for walks.

It’s sad that she won’t be able to take her dogs to a new facility. Hopefully you will be able to find good homes for them.

Best wishes to you and your family.

I am so sorry to hear this. Nerees, my brother's ALF was welcoming to one small dog. Are none of the facilities you have checked on willing to accept a dog? This would be such a loss to her. As you have three there is no question of you trying to accommodate more, I understand, but is there any other choice for family out there? Could the sister take them in with some help of a dog walker?

It is sad. But as I always say, not everything can be fixed. I would imagine you have been trying everything. I sure wish you good luck. The rescue that I work with does just this often, placing dogs whose elders have either died, or had to go into placement. The dogs do adapt and adjust so quickly to their new fosters, and to their new homes. We are early 80s, and this is precisely why we have not got ourselves other dogs after the passing of our final little elder girl dog. We keep our hands in with fostering, but don't want this burden for our families.

Good luck.