I have just found a post I made in 2019, everyone was so helpful. I haven’t posted anything for a couple of years, but I still read posts.

An update, my mom passed away in 2020 from cops, and I took care of my dad for 2 years. It was easier with just my dad, but I had to do everything for him.
Last April, I noticed he had stopped showering, and taking care of himself. He refused help, until the day I went over and found him on the floor. I called paramedics, they helped him up, he refused to go to the er. He ended up falling a second time, paramedics took him to the hospital this time
At the er, they discovered he had a uti, I thought he would be in the hospital a few days and he would come home. Wrong, he could not stand on his own, so I put him in a nursing home for rehab. He became a 2 person lift and was getting confused. I put it down to him being someplace else. He was also very angry with me for putting him into the nursing home
He also got Covid while in the nursing home and would call me with someone stole my watch and glasses
I hired a home health agency, they promised me 24/7 care, I brought him home, he would sit there with a blank look on his face and not talk. He did not seem to notice there was strange people in his house and he would never let someone he didn’t know in the house
after a week the agency decided they could not handle him, and they didn’t have the hour to give us
I was so upset about this, I wasn’t paying attention to where I was walking and fractured my elbow. I needed surgery for this. My daughter took over his care for me, in the meantime I had looked at another nursing home for him. My daughter called my dads dr to get an approval for him to be moved to the nursing home right away, but of course his dr was out of town. My daughter decided to put him in the hospital for a couple of days, then he could be moved to the nursing home. She would call me to ask questions on what she should do, but she said I didn’t make any sense, I was on strong pain pills. The couple of days in the hospital ended up being 10 days because he tested postive for Covid, again.
We finally got him in the nursing home, and he went down hill so fast. We put him on hospice, and he passed away a few days later.
I feel so guilty putting him in the nursing home, my sister refused to come up and help, I even told her, I would buy her a plane ticket.
The death certificate said he passed away from Alzheimer’s, but it seemed to happen so fast
Anyway, thank you everyone for being there and I have been reading the posts and still getting help, from the answers. This is a great group