SLUNSFORD21 Asked June 2023

Evil aunt.

I care for my aunt and have been for 2 years now. I moved in with her and her husband cause none of her kids wanted to care for her. I promised my mom that I would before she passed. She is a fall risk and has had few strokes and many many TIAs. She has gotten so mean and she still in her right mind but the other day she busted in my room and had a hugh knife and tried to stab me. And she has told ppl I have been elderly abusing her. And has called adult protective services and the law. She is trying to have me evicted. Just evil. She even told me that she would kill me in my sleep that I better not go to sleep. I haven't come out of my room in 4 days cause when I do she's all in my face trying g to start something. She drinks alot and everyday. What do I do.

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Why on earth have you stayed?! This woman has proved loud and clear that you aren’t safe there! And no, she is not in her “right mind” Please leave, no explanation necessary, she’s shown you clearly that you shouldn’t be there, not even one more night. Go to a hotel, a relative, a shelter, whatever is safe, and forget some misguided promise you once made when you couldn’t have possibly known how things would become. Please take care of yourself

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What do you do?? Whatever "promise" you had given your mother previously, it is NOW NULL AND VOID - your own life is unsafe and in jeopardy living with your aunt. You need to leave immediately - others on this post have provided suggestions on where.

DO NOT stay there any longer. You can email/notify her kids that you are no longer there. Best of luck to you.

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Run, Forest, Run!

Sorry for being facetious but, running away from your demented aunt would be all I could even think of.

Knife? Threats? Okay, it’s time to get the hell out of there! At this point, it’s called survival and she can fend for herself.

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GET OUT OF THERE. NOW.

I don't think the promise you made to your mother covers staying with a psychotic aunt who may indeed kill you.

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Move out. It doesnt matter what you promised mom.

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You move out.

As to promises made to mom, I doubt she would expect you to stay to be slain in your sleep, do you?

Give your Aunt a two week notice that you are leaving and then do so before you are evicted.

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Don’t think I would wait two weeks under the circumstances. That’s awfully generous.

Being threatened with a knife would speed up my decision to get a move on!

I have had a gun pointed to my heart and I have never forgotten the feeling. It’s terrifying to be threatened.

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You know what concerns me more than anything, is the fact that you think your aunt is "still in her right mind." I personally don't know anyone in their right mind that would try and stab anyone.
Your aunt obviously is showing signs of dementia and not surprising after all those strokes and TIA's. She now needs more help than you can provide and for your own safety's sake you must leave her home, and let her children/husband worry about her care.
Surely you don't want to continue living there right?

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i think unfortunately, you're financially dependent on her, that's why you're staying. you have no job, no home of your own, no money? this is why you continue to live with her, even though she threatens to kill you?

i'm sure you're aware, you need to protect your safety...find a way to be financially independent...leave.

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I do t depend on her for nothing she depends on me to pay for her beer and then say I don't do nothing. I have never asked her for nothing I will die before I ask her for anything. I would burn in hell before I asked her for a glass of water

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She's "still in her right mind" but "busted in my room and had a hugh knife and tried to stab me".........."She even told me that she would kill me in my sleep that I better not go to sleep."

My question to you is: what is your definition of "right mind"?

People in their Right Minds don't threaten others with huge knives or to kill loved ones while they sleep.

Add lots of booze into the Loss of Right Mind scenario and, there you have it. Chaos and bedlam with a bit of insanity thrown in. Or dementia, or the aftermath of strokes and lots and lots of TIAs.

But you already know that, you'd have to.

Good luck to you.

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