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Freedom67 Asked June 2023

My sister is hiding my aunty from the rest of the family. I only know that she is in a home in Honolulu, Hawaii.

Winona 

JoAnn29 Jun 2023
I would love to know how you found her. Did our suggestions help.

CaregiverL Jun 2023
Can you go to Hawaii to visit? How about Skype or FaceTime? Phone calls? Try it. Hugs 🤗

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Freedom67 Jun 2023
I found her.

Geaton777 Jun 2023
Freedom67, please remove the name of your Aunt... this private info should not be shared on a global forum for her own protection.

We aren't detectives so can't find her for you. There is probably a reason why your sister is not divulging her whereabouts. Often it is because "well meaning" people are interfering with the care decisions of the elder made by the PoA (which is probably your sister).

There are always 2 sides to every story and we are only getting yours. I'm sorry for this family strife. If you doubt your sister is your Aunt's PoA or legal guardian, then you'll need to pay an elder law attorney to send a letter to your sister informing her that unless she shows proof of PoA (ie the documents) then you will take her to court and have the judge force her to show proof. But then what? If she is the PoA then you are out of that money and still won't have access to your Aunt.

If she isn't the PoA, and if your Aunt is not cognitively able to assign one, then she becomes a ward of the county and you may still not be allowed to visit her.

If she is capable of assigning you as her PoA, there will be legal fees associated with this. Then, are you willing and able to take on this responsibility? It's a lot of work...

AlvaDeer Jun 2023
Admins:

Please remove private information.

OP, is this person the POA for your Aunt? Is your Aunt currently not competent in her own choices?

What familial squabbles are there that may have contributed to this choice by your sister, if any?

bundleofjoy Jun 2023
i wish someone were hiding me in hawaii!! :)

kidding…
i hope you find your mother!

you should delete the name in your post.
bundleofjoy Jun 2023
someone pleeeeease kidnap me to hawaii!! :) :) :) :)

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