I have a quick question and someday soon I will update you on what has been happening.

This sounds like step one of a multi-step series of events that leave your parents bound and gagged with everything of value stripped from their homes. Either that or dead.

Sounds like they shouldn't be living alone anymore if their judgment is this impaired.

Your parents may be functional but they are still vulnerable, Do they have all their legal ducks in a row, and their assets in a trust or somehow protected from *financial* predators, or from someone who will perpetrate identity theft etc.? Many times financial abuse of the elderly is a crime of opportunity. Not sure you can prevent your parents from having this play date — and I want to be optimistic about it — but I'm from Jersey and if it were my parents it'd be a hard no.

HI Max! I'm not familiar with your backstory, but it's clear to see that those who knew you prior are so happy to hear from you!

Anyway, if this helps, what I can tell you is that even online dating sites will instruct you to "only meet the online date in a PUBLIC PLACE - and NEVER at your home." They even go even further to say that "you should not disclose your address to the person - they should not pick you up or take you home from the date." That is how seriously the online dating services take this. So, why should your parents be any different in a first meeting of a random couple?

This isn't even an issue to question. Your parents need to change the location to a restaurant! I hope they have a safe and enjoyable dinner with this new couple - keep us posted! :)

My friend just lectured me for answering the knock on my front door.. she says,"why would you even open the door? Don't you know that the screen door is not going to hold intruders from entering if you open the door?" I replied that my dog was barking up a storm, and I could not talk... What would she say to this scenario?Yes, I have more than just one friend.. I can count them on my hand.One evening, she had a knock on her door. around 9 pm . Night time. that was odd, so she went out the side of her house to greet another man scaling her fence to get into the backyard! She screamed at him, with f-bombs etc. distraction. They were going to get her to open the front while one was going into the backyard. Just think of what could have happened. She has security cameras now.

Please be careful. I hope you have a fun story to tell about how they may have known each other or have common friends or something..

I pray that this will be a happy story.

i hope your parents didn't meet those total strangers. please stop them from doing so. i hope your parents didn't tell them their address. it's very dangerous. the strangers could be anyone, criminals; and if they know the address, they now know 2 vulnerable, elderly people live in X.

Hey Max,

Good to see you!

Never a dull moment with your parents! Hahaha 🤣 I bet they had a lot of fun when they were younger.

Trust your gut. If you’re uneasy about this situation and I can certainly see why you would be, then you did the right thing by speaking up and telling them that you aren’t in favor of this idea.

Your family has had its share of heartaches. Many of the posters on this forum have had their share of difficult times. I would hate to see your parents be in a dangerous situation. They are social butterflies, aren’t they?

Don’t be a stranger! How is Romeo? He’s not a puppy anymore! I hope you’re doing well.

So sorry that you and husband got Covid. Hope you didn’t suffer too badly from it.

Many hugs and much love sent your way.

Sorry your father is not handling being 95. Growing old is not for sissies. I can understand why he’s depressed. My parents are the same age and are as well. There’s not much to be happy about when you are that old, most of your friends are either dead or very sick and you are worried about dying and outliving your money. He’s probably a candidate for an antidepressant. Maybe you can help convince him that he will feel better about life in general if he goes on one. It’s a grim situation but rose colored glasses however artificial could help his outlook.

If you are posting this, you already know that this story is weird. This is not the way to meet people. They should join a senior center if they are lonely. I absolutely would insist that they not have these people to their home and discourage them from meeting them for dinner too.

If they are competent to make their own decisions, let them make their own decisions........poor or wise, in your eyes.....or move in with them and try managing their lives for them 24/7/365. Which is where this is all leading ANYWAY, right, based on your prior posts?

People from Brooklyn who relocate to other parts of the country love hooking up bc they speak the same language. I doubt these new friends are going to kill your folks or chop their bodies up, but likely share a meal and a few laughs together. People meet online all the time and form friendships and even romances....is this all that much different? It seems insane to you but it feels ok to your folks, so maybe trust their gut on this one. Repeat the suggestion to meet in a restaurant instead of in moms home for the first meeting, just in case they need to make a hasty retreat for some reason.

Good luck.

Max!!! Hope you're doing well. Ask yourself this..would you invite perfect strangers into your home, it's not a good idea for mom&dad. ((Hugs))