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sskrieg Asked August 2023

My HWD is mobility compromised, would sleep 24/7, is prone to falling, and is miserable, wishing he could die. How do I help him?

funkygrandma59 Aug 2023
I would start with getting a hospice evaluation and then take it from there. If he qualifies for their services, he will receive all needed equipment, supplies and medications all covered 100% under his Medicare.
A nurse will also come once a week to start to check his vitals and aides will come at least twice a week to bathe him.
And then just let him sleep and be comfortable until he leaves this world for the next.

My late husband was under hospice care in our home for the last 22 months of his life and was completely bedridden in a hospital bed(which hospice provided)in our living room. In the last year of his life he slept any where from 16-20 hours a day. My main goal(as is hospices)was to keep him as comfortable as possible until he left this world.
It's a hard journey you're on, but remember that this too shall pass.
May God bless you and keep you as you continue on this path with your husband.
sskrieg Aug 2023
Thankyou for your thoughtful reply. I appreciate the info about hospuce & will definitely make the contact.
Geaton777 Aug 2023
Ditto to what againx100 posted to you.

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NeedHelpWithMom Aug 2023
I’m so sorry that you are struggling with this. I’m not sure what you can do to help him. I agree with Againx100’s post.

Do you have any outside help or are you providing all of your husband’s care?

Wishing you peace as you continue on in your caregiving journey.
sskrieg Aug 2023
I am the primary caretaker. He has a very involved daughter for which I am thankful.
I will ask his Dr. about anti-depressant medication


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againx100 Aug 2023
Sounds like he has a lot going on. Sorry about that. Gotta be hard - on both of you. How compromised is his mobility? Can he walk? Does he get out of bed? The house?

With the desire to sleep so much and being miserable - is he depressed? An anti-depressant might help. Of course, his life situation is not so great so I guess there is a reason or two for him to feel depressed, sadly.

What does he do when he's awake? Will he watch TV? Listen to music? Play a game? Since he has dementia, I wouldn't ask too many questions (since when I ask my mom if she wants to do things she tends to say no 90% of the time). Instead just do some things he might enjoy like some music from when you guys were young, etc.

Does he have health issues that are making it seem like he could benefit from hospice care?

Not sure what you can to help him. Please make sure you are taking care of yourself, which may entail hiring someone to sit with hubby so you can get out for a bit. Best of luck.
sskrieg Aug 2023
Thankyou for the response.

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