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Babyofsevenleft Asked August 2023

I would like to go to my own apartment to sleep or rest.

My brother sleeps through the night I just check on him about 4 to 5 hours after he goes to bed to make sure he is dry. I'm I being selfish?

JoAnn29 Aug 2023
If brother has no one to care for him, then he needs to be placed. Either a Memory Care facility if he can afford it or in Long-term care with Medicaid helping.

How did u get POA if he has a Dementia? And really, even in the early stages of Dementia, people should not be left alone. Itsvto unpredictable. I think u have enough on ur plate. And...u are now considered a Senior too. Energy levels go down as we age. You, as are the rest of your siblings, are entitled to your lives. Dementia worsens. Better now to place him than when things get worse and its an emergency.

SnoopyLove Aug 2023
From the OP’s profile:

“I am caring for Willie , who is 76 years old, living at home with alzheimer's / dementia, diabetes, heart disease, incontinence, mobility problems, and stroke.”

You don’t sound selfish at all, in fact you sound like a saint! 😊 BUT I am concerned that the amount of caregiving you are trying to do is too much. Even though you’re the “baby” of the family, I assume you must be at least in your sixties. And you matter too!
Babyofsevenleft Aug 2023
Thank you! Yes I'm the youngest of 7 and in the 60's. It's been a long 4 months and I'm ready for some normalcy. I love my brother and want to see him get better.

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Beatty Aug 2023
I am sorry your brother needs so much help. Does he live alone?
Is he independant enough to do so?
Babyofsevenleft Aug 2023
He can be left alone for a good matter of time now. He has come a long way with proper diet and prayers. But he can have a incontinent problem now and then.
Southernwaver Aug 2023
How did you end up his caregiver? You need to take care of yourself. It’s not selfish to take care of yourself, it’s expected.
Babyofsevenleft Aug 2023
Two family members paid for 2 weeks of home care when he came home from rehabilitation at $300 a day with round the clock care but chose not to continue because it was too much. After that no one wanted to attend to his care. I continued to do my part and stayed on board by getting POA. I'm still trying to get a waiver. I believe it will go through this time. The first time it was with both wife and husband information. She abandoned him for the second and last time. The decree for divorce has been filed by the wife.

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