Both parents have now passed away. Is there an emotional whiplash that happens after, especially when the last years are very difficult?

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Mmm777 Asked August 2023

Both parents have now passed away. Is there an emotional whiplash that happens after, especially when the last years are very difficult?

My parents were both in and out of the hospital for about a decade before they passed. It's hard to go into a lot of detail of how messed up things were. Many people who work with disabled, elderly people seemed to do it for other than altruistic reasons or to make an honest living. Anyways, I'm just wondering what you experienced and how you helped yourself feel better if your parents were chaotic in their last years and treated you terribly and like they didn't trust you even though you were trying to make sure they were safe and getting good care. Thank you in advance

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even if you didn't use hospice, see what they offer for support groups, and what they know of other groups in your area - hospitals, councils on aging, aging service non profit agencies all do support groups.

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Thank you! Great idea

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Find some support groups and give it time. I have a feeling that I will be going through this after momma is gone.

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What a short, sweet, complete answer. It's a wonderful answer.

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It was hard to lose dad. But he was so sick, it was a blessing to have him go. It's one year today that we lost Mom.

I miss her, but am so happy she's with dad and her folks. She was the last one standing, and she was ready to go.

My faith is what sustained me, and still does and always will.

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Well, I had some struggles with my mom. My dad was wonderful.

I was so relieved when it was over that I don’t think I experienced any delayed reactions.

I did seek therapy when I cared for my mother. I feel that if we suppress our emotions, then we will create future problems.

I would suggest that you look into finding a Grief Share organization in your area. griefshare.org

Wishing you peace as you transition into a new phase of your life.

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Thank you so much. I did feel relief at first because there was always some kind of unexpected chaos or person trying to take advantage. It's amazing what kind of people came out of the woodworks and my parents would fall for it. Now, I'm just trying to process all that happened and find meaning in life. Thank you for the suggestion... it's really helpful.

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Both parents have now passed away. Is there an emotional whiplash that happens after, especially when the last years are very difficult?

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