Should I stay with my long distance girlfriend who's caring for her parents?

6 months does not make a relationship, and 3 ur not even together, I had a woman tell me to be with someone at least a year (4 seasons) before you make any type of plans together. The "real" person will likely come out in that time.

"she tells me of the bond she has with her mom and the love of her family and that she will always go to them when they need her" 
There is a post going on right now where a woman left her husband and children to take care of her parents for years. She got no sympathy. Last I read of that post, she sees no wrong in what she did either. So, if you marry, seems ur GF will see no problem in leaving you to go to her parents. And they are in their
40s. Dad should be caring for his wife. She needs to teach him what he needs to know if she does die. What does Mom think, DD will come and care of Dad?

I think your being realistic here. You really have not been together long enough to do the waiting game. You also said she took the whole relationship pretty fast. The calls are slowing down, take advantage of that. Use it as a way to tell her, things are not the same. She has responsibilities. I have a job that transfers me to different places. I need someone who is there for me. If you plan on the Military as a career and ur an Officer, you need a strong woman that will stand beside u. My SIL was an AF wife for 20 yrs. In those yrs she packed up (2 children) 5xs. 6 if you count when he got out of the service and was able to settle in one place. One x they were stationed overseas. There was no way my SIL could run and help her parents.

I think ur the smart one here. For so many reasons, this relationship is not working. Dating is where u find out what you want and need in a person that u will spend your life with. This girl has already told u, her parents come first. Thats not how it should be. Parents let their children go so they can grow, mature and have lives if their own. They become a small part of their children's lives, not the center of it any longer.

Your relationship had not progressed very far (by today’s standards) when GF decided that her M was higher priority. Now contact is petering off. You don’t know how long this situation will last, or how each of you may have changed at the end of it.

My suggestions would be to discuss the difficulties with GF. Say that you still care about her, but both of you are ‘released’ from whatever commitments you made to each other. That includes her relationship with mother and whatever relationships you choose yourself. You will keep in touch occasionally to see how things have changed and how each of you feel about trying again with each other. Best wishes and good luck all round.

Oddly enough, a lot of these things come down to timing when it's all said and done, and the timing's just not right for either of you.
You've already got a lot on your plate with your service, and she's not going to be able to commit or focus on a relationship until they get her mom's health sorted out.
She's happy to have you around for moral support, but it doesn't sound like she's able to reciprocate. As you wrote, things are already slipping a bit. I'd say just let it go.

Update: I had a feeling that things were getting worse. She removed that she was taken on instagram, removed the blue checks from whatsapp and barely responded, but was on IG almost constantly. I decided to redownload bumble and put in her parameters, low and behold, there she is. I just ended it. Now I don't even believe her mom is sick. What kind of person would make that up???

It is wonderful that you care so much for her, but, maybe she just has ties that she cannot break. It is admirable that she cares this much for her folks, really, and I'm sure she cares for you very much, but sometimes our circumstances just don't align at times we wish they would. I would at least ask that you empathize with her situation. When your parents decline, all I can tell you is that it's not easy to juggle anything.

Best of luck.

I know it is hard, however, I'd move on and when/if her parents die or her duties change, if she and you are both available, then you can pick up the relationship again.

Giving care to people takes a lot out of people. She may or may not have the time for you and the relationship. If you stay, you may or may not begin to resent the time she devotes to her parents.

I applaud her for making the tough decision to help her parents out. She will probably be a terrific caregiver should a loved one get sick. However, for right now, the time is not right for you and her.

I suggest you move on.

P.S. You are not being selfish and insensitive by moving on. You are acknowledging that you don't want to compete with her parents. You are also a caring, sensitive individual by not forcing her to chose between you and her parents at this critical time of their life. When her crisis is over, if you and she are still available, you and she can decide whether you want to resume the relationship or keep it right where it is. Both of you will be different people at that time, too.

We all have our limitations. Your girlfriend has been honest with you. Her determination to always put her family first is meeting only the first of many challenges to come. What about when dementia hits for a surviving parent? You would still have to face this whether you were just living together or married. And what about when you have your own children? Have you asked her who comes first then?

You aren't married. Love isn't enough. There have to be shared understandings and agreements about many basics in life, and I am grateful you have met this one now. It doesn't bode well that you cannot allow for some time and see where this is going; it means you are not invested for the long term and that your relationship is more one of need than of shared understanding. That's fine. It is best recognized.

I would tell her that you have this limitation, embrace it, and you should remain friends and move on with your lives would be my advice.

Something seems very "fishy" to me here as why a daughter would have to move back in with her mom when dad is there to care for her.
You say that your girlfriend has a strong bond with her mom, but from someone from the outside looking in, it appears to me that your girlfriend has an unhealthy and perhaps even co-dependent bond with her mom. And that should be a HUGE red flag to you, as that doesn't bode well for you in the future should you continue to be together.
I would cut your ties now and move on as you deserve so much better. I hope you know that. Don't ever settle!

Sad to say the timing is off for the two if you. Your relationship is just getting off the ground. At this point her bonds with her parents are stronger than the ones she is beginning to form with you. You cannot come first just yet.

It’s sad but I think I would give her the space to do what she needs to do. If you don’t want to be supportive and see how it might go in the next few months, then you should move on.

I’m sorry that you have gone through this. Now you know that she was never worth waiting for.

Move on, don’t look back. You will meet someone else. It’s fresh in your mind now, but trust me, one day she will only be a distant memory for you.

Wishing you peace during this difficult time.