So I’m 24 I live with my father and take care of him I am in the process of becoming his home care taker though an agency the problem I’m having is my dad plans on granting POA to someone that doesn’t have his best interest. A women that has lived with us for over 30yrs that was a friend of my mom is who he is granting poa or she already has it . When my mom died in 2020 she moved out the next year and she takes care of his finances she never shows him his bank statements. My dad wants a Will and she says to me “there won’t be a will “ he’s a veteran and she says the VA will pay for his funeral and she is taking all his policy money what do I need to do ? Also she sent me documents to sign that say they are “prepared by him “ but he didn’t make them.
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I understand that you live with your dad and that you care about his needs. I am concerned though that you are stretching yourself too thin. That’s an awful lot on your plate.
Do contact an elder attorney. Make sure that your dad isn’t being deceived by this woman. What is your father’s mental condition?
I find it odd that he doesn’t explain his relationship with this woman to you. You’re his daughter, naturally you are going to be concerned about his well being.
A friend of mine recently lost her godmother. All hell broke loose when her godmother died. My friend is still in shock. Her godmother had two private caregivers who were able to coerce her into signing documents.
The godmother hadn’t made her will yet. She told my friend that she wanted her to inherit everything. She didn’t have children of her own and looked at her godchild as a daughter. Others heard her say this to her goddaughter.
Somehow, the caregivers coerced her godmother into signing documents and then they got everything! I mean everything, her condo, her new car, expensive furniture, her jewelry, etc. Watch your back!
Wishing you and your father all the best.
She has been there 30 years. She is hardly a stranger to him.
Don't sign anything.
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Honestly? You trust Jane over me?
then why did you ask me to take care of you? YOU DO REALIZE JANE is the POA for your health and finances…
if you want me to take care of you, you will need to change your your living trust , so I will have your best interest for your HEALTH N FINANCE. so you need anything in a hurry, I don’t need to bc ask or explain to Jane.
unless dad has siblings or hire a trust attorney let them be his fiduciary.
How do you know she's taking all the policy money? Do you mean he made her the beneficiary? A Will won't change this.
"...she takes care of his finances she never shows him his bank statements." If your Dad needs someone to take care of his finances then maybe his memory isn't good enough to know (or remember) if he's seen his statements or not. If he has dementia then this isn't unusual.
"...she sent me documents to sign that say they are “prepared by him “ but he didn’t make them." How do you know this?
If you have so much "proof" of abuse then take it to an attorney to see if you have a winnable case... but if you do -- then what? Are you willing to become his legal guardian?
Call Adult Protective Services and report financial abuse.