My father has dementia and is in a nursing home in VA. I have POA. His house has been sold and I live in PA. For income taxes etc. and his retirement benefits info for the company he worked for, is the nursing home in VA considered his offical/permanent address? I am in the process of proving to his "company" that I am POA but they are asking for...Permanent address, Pension check mailing address and alternative address. His pension check is auto deposit to his bank account.
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Your address is his mailing address.
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One other thought on this topic. After my DH aunt went Into the NH I failed to check with the NH admin to make sure they would only put personal mail like cards in her room and forward or hold any other mail for me. (someone has to open her cards and read them but she enjoys getting them).
I am POA and they have a copy of the POA. she has dementia. I kept thinking it was odd I hadn’t received certain documents. One day I asked the NH if they had any mail for aunt. Oh yes, here in this file they said. 🤨
My take on it was they are accustomed to receiving all the mail for many of their patients and didn’t think it was unusual that they received it. So you might ask what the procedure is for your father at his home if you haven’t already.
He should not ever receive any piece of mail other than a greeting card or catalog at the nursing home.
His residence is the nursing home. His mailing address is wherever his POA says it is.
I had a little experience with this for my DH Aunt but hers is not as complicated as both addresses were in the same state. I would not want anything as important as you describe being mailed to the NH. If everything can be done electronically, then that’s a thought.I would probably contact the IRS or CPA and ask and then contact the human resources or company benefits contact and find out your options. I suspect both will be your address.
Often you will be told to provide them with his address, stipulating that this is a nursing home resident, and with the mailing address which should now be to your home.
I did this work for my brother as I was POA and Trustee of Trust and took over all accounts and finances for him. I lived at one end of California and he at the other. It took a good YEAR with a very very good POA written well by an attorney to get things ironing out as to mailing addresses and etc. IRS and SS and Medicare was the most difficult, as normal POA doesn't apply for them. My brother had to be competent enough to request mailings go to me. Other entities did recognize the POA but I was busy delivering and copying POA/Trusts for a year. Once done things ran more smoothly, but wow, what a job, and that with a very easily managed estate.
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