Is it wrong to ask for some kind of compensation to help keep my car insured and few other bills payed?

Inform the POA that you are leaving on December 1.

Find a women's shelter. Find a job.

You are volunteering for a life of misery and poverty. Please take back the ability to direct your life from your selfish siblings. You can't fight this level of dysfunction.

How did your brother cancel your insurance and cell phone, unless they were really his insurance and cell phone? Your mom can always call Social Security and have the checks deposited back into her account. She could even cancel the POA if she wished.

Either way, just walk away. Your brother has POA, let him figure it out.

You've been sacrificing your life (and your future) for four years without compensation, what makes you think asking will get you anywhere? I'm not sure why yo are fine with the idea of being the family slave but unless you are also fine with the idea of being homeless once their need for you is over you need to break this abusive cycle. I doubt reasonable asks are going to work, you will likely need to do as Barb advises and leave, the only way to force your family to find a new solution is if you are no longer in the picture.

One of my cousins moved in with his elderly parents. Quit is job. Cancelled the aides the POA had hired.

After second parents' death, attempted to go back to work. Had developed chronic physical issues and deep depression. His POA sibling didn't hate him, but didn't get why he thoughts HIS care was better than highly trained aides, and eventually VA NH for his dad, whose mental illness and dementia was finally treated.

Committed suicide. Please don't be my cousin

There are no Laws Protecting Caregivers you are being screwed. You should demand a salary weekly from your Brother or let him Pay Private Caregivers . believe me act Now Or you will Be sitting on a Piss Pot with Out a Penny . You are Being Used and you will Suffer in the end. You should be getting $2500 a week . If he can't pay you that Hire a elder attorney and do a will and Have your Mother make you executor. The person doing all the Caretaking should have POA and Healthcare Proxy . He is elderly abusing your Mom and she can have Him removed as POA and the SS should be going Into her account Not his account - he can be reported to the social security office . You need to stick up for yourself - have the Mom remove the POA from him and she should Have her own checking account which you add your name On . Screw your brother . Dont be Used By these people . In the end you will be sorry .

I see from your profile that you are a son. I don't know what the rules about shelters for men in your area are, but my advice stand

Get out of this situation. This is NOT what your mom would want for you, daughter or son.

You need to get out and get back on your own ASAP. You tell your mother and siblings you need to earn money to support yourself. Then you go out and find a job. Are you employable? That's just a straightforward question with no malice, and I ask because unfortunately there are many among us who are not employable due to mental/personality disorders, poor social skills, substance abuse, etc. Your siblings may view you as unemployable, and a leach and therefore stuck. I hope that's not the case, and I hope you can get a job and leave, because you're right, once she passes you likely will be out on the streets anyway

I want you to look at it this way, Bravo. Mom, due to age and disability has other options and entitlements for care.

You don't.

When mom needed care with "everyday tasks", she could have hired help, gone to Assisted Living orca Board and Care home. Your brother, as POA should have been looped in on getting this done.

You have no one but yourself to rely upon for income and for retirement.

Get out and go back to work.

I agree with those who recommend leaving. Stop being the PoA's convenient solution. He may appreciate you once you're gone (or not). Give him a few weeks notice so he can find a replacement but offer no reason (so he can't negotiate with you). If he can't figure out why you're leaving then he's a dunce. Then when the deadline comes, leave no matter what.

Also, if he's depositing your Mom's SS checks into his account, this may delay or disqualify her financially for Medicaid. Maybe he's doing this because you're currently joint on her checking account, but still -- not a good strategy by him. In NV the Medicaid look-back period on the application is 5 years...

If you suspect your brother of mismanaging your mom's finances by transferring them into his PERSONAL account, then report him to APS or consult an elder law attorney to ask for a financial accounting of the management of your mother's assets.

Your brother has a right to manage all finances now, as POA for your mother.

If you are "doing everything for her" then it is time to tell brother that you cannot continue to act for your mother nor "do everything" without financial compensation. That is to say--tell him "I quit as of now". It is not wrong to ask for compensation, BUT it must be done formally and there must be a contract of care for time and expenditure. Something that would hold up in court, as your brother is now LEGALLY accountable for being able to prove every single cent he spends of your mom's money, as her POA. He must have records that will stand up in court if he is being called to account. Your brother has a choice to hire help for her or do it himself.