He is trying to take his clothes off and is agitated and trying to get up and leave the hospital. Im his daughter. I wonder if he will improve. He is yelling and I’ve never seen him like this ever before.
On top of that his wife, who tells him two days before he fell getting groceries (I asked his wife to please go with him. She doesn’t go) tells him, “stop
pmaying hunny, you know you don’t need a walker, you can run. She jokes with his confusing brain. They lives in Florida. I live in nc. My sister lives in ny. We are all over the place. How can we help him? Has Anyone else gone through this?
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Also, the wife should not be caring for him if she's saying stupid stuff to him and not realizing/caring about the impact. WIth your Dad out of their house, you may begin to see signs that she is not capable of living by herself. Been there, done that with my MIL, when her husband (with Parkinsons) fell in the grocery store parking lot and was in rehab for 3 weeks. Then we clearly saw her very significant short-term memory loss problem. Do NOT let your Dad go back to his house is she's going to be "managing" him.
Of course none of you can do a thing from another state.
Who has the intention of going now to visit? Your sister? You?
Are there step children there, or just his wife?
This is a time for family support if there can be any. But your Dad will likely now be in care for some time with hospitalization followed by rehab. It will be up to his hospital team to manage his confusion now.
Who is the POA? Is that the wife? Set up a phone tree. She is not going to be able to talk to you all all the time. Set up a way to get information from the person with rights to have medical POA and GET the information. Otherwise this will descend into he-said, she-said and further confusion.
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You may not have seen your Dad like this before but I can assure you hospital staff in an orthopeadic ward see this every week.
No denying it is awful.
One step at a time. See what the hip repair plans are.
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It sounds like dad can't make decisions for himself right now.
Google "hospital dementia"--it's pretty common. Also, a Urinary Tract Infection can cause delirium. Please make sure his urine is tested and cultured for that.
His wife sounds like a piece of work. Does he have his paperwork in order? Will, living will, POA, etc.? Is she loco or just obnoxious? I don't know how old she is but telling him he can run just seems bizarre.
I would strongly encourage dad to go to rehab when he can leave the hospital. If his wife can't properly care for him, he may need to be placed at the type of facility appropriate for him at this time.
Best of luck.