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SherrySue Asked December 12, 2023

Who to report to?

Screaming at client. Cussing at client. talks very disrespectful. Fears she will hit her. Steals and lies. The care giver is the daughter. The mother allows her to rent a room from her. The mother is 71 and works full time. The daughter is of no physisical help to me. I want her removed from my home because I am terrified of her rants and raves and I am so afraid she will hit me.

JoAnn29 Dec 13, 2023
Your talking in 3rd party so hard to follow.

So, are you the grandmother with a daughter and granddaughter living with you? And of so, why is the mother allowed to charge rent in ur home? Are u paying the daughter? Next time she threatens you, call 911 and have her removed and tell the police when they arrive, she is not welcomed back since this is your home. Then call the mother and tell her her daughter is not allowed back in your home because of the abuse and she does nothing.

NeedHelpWithMom Dec 13, 2023
I don’t understand this question at all. Please rephrase it in order to receive help. Thanks.

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Grandma1954 Dec 12, 2023
If you are afraid for your safety you call 911. Explain the situation to the dispatcher.
With any "Elder Abuse" you can call your State's Elder Abuse Hotline number and explain the situation.

I do agree with the others that a little (maybe a lot) more info is needed.
Are YOU the client?
Is the mother the client?
How are you living in the "mothers" house?

Evamar Dec 12, 2023
As I understand it the mother is 71 and works.
The daughter is her caregiver.
The daughter lives in mother’s house.
The daughter offers no help, steals, lies.
Mother wants her removed from her house as she is afraid the daughter will hit her.
olddude Dec 13, 2023
Who is posting the message? How are they related to this situation?
CaringinVA Dec 12, 2023
Hi SherrySue. Would you give us a little more context/info about the situation? Are you the care recipient? Just need a little more so that we can give helpful advice.

AlvaDeer Dec 12, 2023
Where do you fit in this?
 
Who is the client? Is she YOUR client?
Is the client capable of acting in her own behalf?

Mother, 71, is clearly not the one getting care. And the home belongs to her; she can rent to whomever she wishes to rent to, including a daughter who screams.

The daughter doesn't need to be of help to you whether you are the client or caregiver. The daughter wasn't hired by you or to be of help to you or to give you care.
It isn't your business whether or not she lives in her mother's home.
If the mother is a working 71 y/o she is clearly in a place to decide for herself whether she wishes her screaming daughter to leave her home, or not.

If you are the one getting care, then you should call APS and tell them you cannot live with a screaming daughter and a mother who will do nothing about it, and request help in placement for yourself.
If you are the caregiver you can quit the position.

But in one's own home they may have whomever they wish take abode.
Apparently that's the case here and there is little to nothing that I can see that you can do about it.
I wish you all the best of luck in placement (if you are the one needing care) or in a new job (if you are a caregiver).

Geaton777 Dec 12, 2023
I'm assuming you're the one who needs the caregiver (you are the client). The daughter is the caregiver. Is the working 71-yr old who (also lives there?) unrelated to you? They are both in your house? How does the 71-yr old have the authority to allow her daughter to "rent a room" if it is your house?

Call APS for your county and reporting yourself as a vulnerable adult. At the very least they can give you guidance as to what you can do if they can't immediately help you.

Or, you can call the cops and report her abusive behavior (and they may temporarily remove her but if this is her legal residence, then she may be allowed to come back). If you have a smart phone then video her bad behavior to show the cops as proof.

Or, you can file to evict her. This is a legal process and you need to call your district court to find out the process (or search online). Usually you will need to fill out a form and pay to file it (can be around $300 were I live). Then once the form is processed you will then be legally able to post an eviction notice on her door with a 30-day timeframe to move out. If the deadline passes and she doesn't get out, then call the police to have her escorted off your property. You may need to get a restraining order to prevent her Mom from allowing her back into your house. You may want both of them out...

Hopefully I got your story straight. If not, please correct where it is wrong.

BarbBrooklyn Dec 12, 2023
Sherry, I'm very confused.

Are you the client?

Who is the caregiver?

Are you in your own home?

If you are in your home and someone is yelling and threatening you, call 911 and press charges.

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