How do I stop my daughter from trying to take over my life?

This is your 3rd post since the 26th. In the first one you posted a TU but no questions asked got answered. Second one you did not reply to questions asked at all.

This is a forum of lay people caring for Loved ones (and some not so loved LOs). We share our experiences with each other trying to help. We cannot give you the information you are seeking. We are people from all over the US, Canada, Australia, UK and other countries. There is no legal help here.

As a retired Police Officer you must know lawyers in your area. As a Vet, maybe the VA can help you find a lawyer. Call your County VA department. There is Legal Aid call your County Office of Aging to see if they have a phone#.

The only way you are going to resolve your problem, is hire a lawyer to find out if daughter was able to get guardianship. Did you give her Power of Attorney, if so you can revoke it. You can get a restraining order. But you need a lawyer.

You say she moved to California, Gunny?

That's a GOOD THING. She wanted to do this in order to "get away" you tell us. I assume now that she IS away, so it is hard to imagine what control she can try to exert over you.
As retired military with a history in the Police Department you are used to being the one in control.
I would explain that to her and let her know you will reach out to her when and if you need help. Otherwise the best support she can be to you is just to love you.

Your questions to us here on Forum are a bit vague to give you any real advice or direction. But this is just to say that you are clearly competent. No court in the USA will take a citizen's rights to make his own decisions from him if he is not a danger to himself or to others. The law HATES to remove a citizen's rights from him.

This could just be a matter of your daughter giving you too much advice. It happens. There comes a time when our constant worrying over our kids all their lives, our insistence on thinking they ARE kids, gets upended and they start worrying about US. As an 81 year old I fully understand the discomfort this can have when first it happens. It has been an adjustment, but now I often see my own daughter, early 60s, not as my "kid" but as my "wise woman". As my council. As my advisor. As my friend. And I treasure her in all she is.

You make a reasonable life plan for your future care and needs so nobody has any reason to step in and take over, then you go to a lawyer and put all your legal ducks in a row.

I am confused by your profile. It states that you are caring for your father. Are you typing using your daughter’s screen name? Profile says that dad lives in independent living.

Reporting so that admins can remove your personal info.

Please remove your telephone number from this post, personal info is not allowed here. We are a forum of caregivers (regular laymen) to elders who post questions here and share advice. We cannot help you with your situation. Consult an elder care attorney for advice.

Good luck to you.

What is your daughter doing?

No one is going to call you.