Gunny Below is the answer I answered before. This site is so helpful for so many of us caregivers, daughters and wife, husband. So if you want suggestions there have been some great ones out there. I hope this site stays helpful and doesn't get taken over by scammers, bots or any unhelpful.
Good for you. I found out that my father has been a victim of elder financial abuse by my sister. While you are of sound mind hire yourself a fiduciary that will help you pay your bills and will know your wishes as to how you want to proceed in the future should your health or memory fade. We hired a fiduciary for my Dad 2 1/2 years ago now and the fiduciary is still wrangling some of his assets and finding lots of discrepancies. It sad to know that a Family member could take such advantage of they're parents and act as if they do nothing but help them. see less
Possible lack of computer skills is not a basis for a armchair diagnosis of dementia nor an argument for supporting a daughter's actions. We just don't know. Let's not get get so annoyed with repetitive questioning. Similar questions from other people are asked and answered without recrimination. And, "Gunny" easily could have another illness. I recently read that "Mold" (that damp stuff) might produce symptoms of dementia. Depression, and other mental conditions could also be responsible for foggy thinking. I agree, more information is needed.
" Gaslighting " and "Munchausen's by Proxy" by an adult caregiver might need to be explored, also.
Get a restraining order against her - if you believe she has taken something from you - File a Police report and go see a judge for a restraining Order . Then find a elder attorney On this site Or By word of Mouth or go on YELP . or if any of your friends have a recommendation for a good attorney who can Point you in the right direction. Find a advocate or social worker , therapist you can document your concerns - tell your primary care physician you need a therapist or social worker involved In your life to help protect you and give you advice . Elder abuse is real and there is not Much to protect you . You can also contact Adult protective services but I find they dont do much but Push paperwork around and Have no real authority .
I agree. Many of us have been asking questions, asking for any details or any clue as to how ANYONE can take over anyone else's finances if they are competent, and getting no information. I think as well there is a lot of water under the bridge we cannot tell the depth of.
This is at least 4x you have asked almost the same question. And a PM to me. In most of our responses, we have told you you need a lawyer. We as lay people cannot help you. You need an Elder Lawyer.
Gunny, you have asked us this question before. You do not answer questions, however, nor give details. Without those details no one can have any clue as to what you are talking about.
Please stop asking this question if you've no intention of sharing what circumstances you are speaking of.
The courts in the United States of America do not take a citizen's right to management of his finances away from him UNLESS he is incompetent to manage them.
I'm sorry Gunny. This is at least the third time you have posted these questions, perhaps you need to consider that your daughter is seeing things more clearly than you are now and has your best interest at heart - try to work with her instead of opposing her.
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Below is the answer I answered before. This site is so helpful for so many of us caregivers, daughters and wife, husband. So if you want suggestions there have been some great ones out there.
I hope this site stays helpful and doesn't get taken over by scammers, bots or any unhelpful.
Good for you. I found out that my father has been a victim of elder financial abuse by my sister. While you are of sound mind hire yourself a fiduciary that will help you pay your bills and will know your wishes as to how you want to proceed in the future should your health or memory fade.
We hired a fiduciary for my Dad 2 1/2 years ago now and the fiduciary is still wrangling some of his assets and finding lots of discrepancies.
It sad to know that a Family member could take such advantage of they're parents and act as if they do nothing but help them. see less
" Gaslighting " and "Munchausen's by Proxy" by an adult caregiver might need to be explored, also.
You do not answer questions, however, nor give details.
Without those details no one can have any clue as to what you are talking about.
Please stop asking this question if you've no intention of sharing what circumstances you are speaking of.
The courts in the United States of America do not take a citizen's right to management of his finances away from him UNLESS he is incompetent to manage them.