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survival Asked February 9, 2024

How could I get paid for 10 years of taking care of my old, blind, diabetic, on dialysis brother? I came as a refugee, didn't know the system.

My brother and his three adult children made me feel as though they were doing me a favor by allowing me to live rent-free in my brother's condo. However, it was a 24/7 job, requiring round-the-clock care. When he passed away, his children abruptly kicked me out, amidst the challenging period of Covid-19, leaving me homeless. Despite holding a Master's degree, I had to settle for an entry-level job. This situation revealed their true nature: they were 'wolves in sheep's clothing.'


I am seeking guidance on how to seek compensation for the ten years I spent dedicating my life to caring for my brother, as well as navigating the emotional toll of this betrayal. My brother verbally assured me of security in case of his passing, and I am now left without recourse. Any advice on how to proceed would be greatly appreciated.

Grandma1954 Feb 9, 2024
Simple answer is you can not recoup back pay particularly if there was never a contract or promise to pay you.

NeedHelpWithMom Feb 9, 2024
Survival,

Just read your profile. I am so sorry that you went through the horrors of war in your country.

I’m also sorry for the loss of your brother and that you weren’t compensated for your caregiving services.

Sadly, nothing that your brother promised you was in writing. His children see things differently than your brother and your sacrifices are not going to be rewarded.

I hope that you will be able to find a good job. You state in your profile that you came to this country to live in peace. I certainly hope that you will find peace.

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Geaton777 Feb 9, 2024
You can make a claim against a dead person's estate but only if you had a written contract that was breached, and probate and accounts are not closed. Even so, not even sure if you could back 10 years. I think it would depend upon what state this happened in.

If the your brother's estate went through probate and is now closed any "leftover" assets/money (if there was any) went on to his inheritors and you can't go after them since they are not your brother and you only had a verbal agreement. Sorry, case closed. Move on with your life.

AlvaDeer Feb 9, 2024
No. It's done.
In our country you cannot get compensation for work you did without agreement or contract.
The fact you didn't "know this" is irrelevant.

Sorry. Time to move on. It is done now. I wish you the very best of luck.
You are a good caregiver after all this time. Seek a job being a caregiver. I wish you the best.

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