How did "imminent" flag change things for you/your loved one on hospice?

2/17 Update: Dad's still here with the BP of a teenager and clear lungs. Down to just a little water each day, still no food. Hospice says if nothing changes by Monday they are taking him off of the imminent list. Bless him...he's doing this his way, dang it. I read somewhere recently we die as we lived. Perhaps.... 🤭

My dad spent weeks with a greatly diminished appetite before we were finally able to get the local ERs to pay attention, admit him, and diagnose liver failure. Even before I knew he was terminal, I would offer anything that might appeal, and he would only eat bites. And again after the admission to hospice, we offered things but never pushed. The day before he died, he suddenly woke up, texted me, and asked me to come to his care home. He could not talk much, but got across that he really needed to eat. He drank half a Boost drink before I was able to understand he wanted a Sprite. So my brother was sent out for that, at 6 am. I say let them dictate what they need.
When stepmom was terminal in MD Anderson cancer center, she wanted a shake. The staff wasn’t too keen on it. By golly, I got her that shake, and she was pleased with the two bites she took.

Your last sentence says it all, when you say that "I thought having more visits would feel helpful, but as of this weekend, I'm not so sure."
You must remember that the hospice nurses are human just like the rest of us and they are not God.
And try as they might to predict what is going on, they often get it wrong.
My late husband was under hospice care in our home for the last 22 months of his life, and I was told several times before he actually was dying that they thought the end was near, but he proved them wrong.
And even when he actually did start his dying process, his nurse said that he would be dead in 3 days, and yet he lingered on for 41 days.
And because hospice couldn't get my husbands pain and agitation under control, he was going through a bag of liquid fentanyl every day for the last 2 1/2 weeks or so and so the nurse had to come daily to change out the pain pump. That only took about 15 minutes or so and she would check my husbands vitals and leave.
Looking back on it now, if my husbands pain pump wouldn't have had to been changed out daily I wouldn't have had them come every day towards the end, as they didn't really do much other than disrupt my day.
So let your dad direct you in whether he wants to eat or drink anything, and never force either on him. And if you want peace with your dad in his final days, tell hospice that you will call them if you need them, as they are available 24/7.
Just because they offer to come every day doesn't mean that you have to allow them to. You do what is best for your dad and all involved.
Wishing you the very best as you take this final journey with your dad.

rs, you can call the hospice provider and tell them that you don't want that nurse back or explain what happened and make them clarify what is what, since she introduced conflicting, accusatory information.

You are never stuck with the providers they send. They are there to make this easier for patients and family, not harder and laying guilt.

This flag simply means that death is approaching with speed. There will then be more support for watching over, managing meds, providing support to family.

If you do find that food and esp. fluid makes your Dad more alert and the signs of death go back, then, yes, so will the visits.

As with all things, this cannot be predicted and is best taken day by day.

Such food and fluids as are ASKED FOR should be allow to a dying patient, of course. Do know that even minimal fluids only will greatly prolong things by days in many cases, and in a few lead to more difficulty with secretions.
Again, this is to be taken day by day.