I was somewhat taken aback by this option. Though the POA and HCP may not be on the same page regarding future plans for my mother I would choose debating siblings over "guardian ad liten" from what I am reading about it. Our family has since hired a geriatric case manager (GCM) to do an independent assessment regarding my mother's future needs. The social worker who seemed somewhat old-school did not believe a GCM would help as the siblings would still disagree.
The POA wants the parent in a nursing home. The other three siblings including the HCP want to respect our mother's wishes as much as possible to live and pass away in her home.
I want to feel a better sense of hope than the advice the social worker gave.
Though adult siblings disagree and debate we have a history of eventually solving the problem. That is what the palliative care social worker said about us.
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If the POA is the one living with mom. providing care, and is burnt out, then mom needs either placement or to hire 24/7 care at home.
If you would fight this, then I guess you would be continuing the disruption, but do know that if you hire your own attorney and you LOSE (which is highly likely given your parent chose the POA over you all) then you would all have to be paying the court expenses. Loser pays all/winner takes all in most decisions of this type.
It's a shame what is going on in my own opinion, as this ongoing disruption by the siblings in trying to undermine the one chosen as POA is putting your weakened parent in the middle. Just my opinion.
I am uncertain why you continue to come here for these unpleasant opinions? You have an attorney. I think you should consult your own attorney and make your own decisions.
Who's the primary caregiver?