My mom had lung cancer ALZ and Lewy Body Dementia.We chose no curative . We did get her into Memory care.In the times when she would get restless they asked me to be there to help as they usually do not have enough staff for that.
Wow. Did they give any kind of discount on how much they were charging for your mother if they expected her family to come and take care of her.
God bless you for being there, but it is absolutely ridiculous and completely out of line for a nursing home/memory care who gets probably $10,000 a month or more to even ask you to.
As you can imagine, most MC facilities are private businesses. Each has its own set up about what condition it can accommodate. Do visit facilities in your area. There should be no reason that many cannot accommodate your loved one, and especially if they are willing to avail themselves of Hospice services recommended by the facility when they are residents.
While this, of course is logical, I have a friend paying $10,000/month for MC for her father yet they call her to go clean up each and every time he makes a mess with feces. She lives a seven-hour’s drive away.
In our area, MC facilities are only Assisted Living without any skilled nursing. SNF facilities take memory care patients if they provide a locked environment. However they are not always experienced in what memory care patients need, which is someone who understands dementia rather than being ignored.
As others have said, you may want to visit the facilities available to you to see who will accept the patient and what will they provide. Assisted Living may not be able to provide the care a cancer patient needs. I have found that MC, Assisted Living, SNF often means different things in different local regions.
Yes, especially if they are on Hospice, which they should have, and dependent on care needs. If SNF care is required then that's a more appropriate choice. Discuss with individual facility as they all vary in what they can provide, based on the NEEDS of the client.
You might need to hire personal carrgivers when her end time comes. For instance, my mom went on hospice when she got weaker from barely eating then became bedridden. Her death was still related to her dementia. MC is like AL with limited support. It was recommended that mom go to SNF. What she needed was someone to offer her food and water at times. At this point she only lasted 1 week. We really do not know how long that end point lasts. I suggest you speak to management of your need for add on options to see if staying in MC is feasible
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Wow. Did they give any kind of discount on how much they were charging for your mother if they expected her family to come and take care of her.
God bless you for being there, but it is absolutely ridiculous and completely out of line for a nursing home/memory care who gets probably $10,000 a month or more to even ask you to.
As others have said, you may want to visit the facilities available to you to see who will accept the patient and what will they provide. Assisted Living may not be able to provide the care a cancer patient needs. I have found that MC, Assisted Living, SNF often means different things in different local regions.
We really do not know how long that end point lasts. I suggest you speak to management of your need for add on options to see if staying in MC is feasible