How to decide what type of care my husband needs?

I was sure my husband would refuse any out side help, however we now have a home heath company. I told him the Dr said we need a little time away from each other and the Veterans will pay for that, which they do. So two different ladies come for 4 hours twice a week. He really really likes them. First I wanted guys, not available at this time. Now I can make appointments, go to lunch with friends and just be by myself. I tell him on the morning of their arrival, your friend Sue is coming to hang out with you today. He says oh good.
Can’t loose give it a try.

Aging Care is a great website for information. It gives a step by step plan.
I am looking at this same thing You have to take care of yourself. Sounds like you have a lot on your plate.

Talk to a home health agency. Most can do an interview with you about types of tasks he/you need help with and the resources available through their agency.

I would get a Caregiver who has experience to care for him at home 2 or 3 days a week or what ever U need to give u a break n help the both of u out maybe get him into something he would like to do so u can get the peace U need too

In my very limited experience make the the facility you choose will really be able to take care of them. Took my mom, with dementia to a AL village that said they take memory care people too. 3 weeks later we were told she needs more care. She can walk and talk and does things on her own, I see rapid recent decline I past days. Late afternoon big change. Found a place that is for dementia patient, all stages and into hospice. I’m single have kids and have to work. She needs socialization too. Luckily she wants to go and knows she needs proper care. Good luck with everything.

partnerwife1: Now may be the time for managed care facility living for your DH (Dear Husband).

A family run company with your husband's health condition and yours places you in a tough spot. Nice that your husband helps with some of the company's tasks.

Your husband needs help to stay to help with the business in your home. If things get too tough, have him placed in a facility. I think A Place for Mom from the AgingCare website is a good way to start for a facility. You require medical help for yourself and a much needed break. Some therapy may also help.

Ask social worker, MD. Call a local state, national Association (Dementia)
I would recommend you get someone to care for your husband when you go to work. As well, hire someone 1-2 days/week so you can get a respite. If you do not take time off for YOU, you will not be able to care for him, or yourself. You will be too exhausted. You also must take care of your mental and emotional health. This 'work' is very difficult and you must put yourself first. Gena

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You will find out when you schedule an appointment and visit an AL and MC. Some facilities have both to save time and trouble. When you speak to a marketing person, you will be asked questions and then learn which one is best. If there are complicated medications involved then sometimes it will mean a step up. It also depends on your state scope of practice so you will not have to visit many places because you will get the same answers

Ask his primary care provider or neurologist.

Have you looked into the Adult daycare Center in your area? They are great. You can have your loved one there up to 8 hours a day, 5 days a week if you want, and they serve breakfast, lunch and a snack, and have different activities daily.
Those in my dementia caregiver support group that have their loved ones in one say their loved ones LOVE it there.
You can also check with your Area Agency on Aging to see what other options you may have.

Call Council on Aging in your area. They will conduct a needs assessment for him and can make recommendations for you.

Wishing you and your husband all the best.

Consider
1) health - backup caregiver(s) for hubby? who's caring for you? Respite arranged? In-home care needed now/soon? Support network on hand (disease progression, new meds/therapies, commiseration and commendation, etc.) for both of you?
2) family/home needs - house cleaning, bill paying, meals
3) business - disaster planning can include health contingencies of owners

Best wishes to you both on all fronts.

Only you can know all that is involved here.
Only you know how much and what kind of break you need.
You may need to discuss some respite care with hubby.
Only you can make these decisions; we can but wish you the very best in making the best ones.
What you are going through is doubly tough. No, triple tough. I am so sorry and so wish you the very best.