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Candlewind Asked April 8, 2024

My four sisters and mother after living in the same house for 39 years, first 17 years we gave my mom 1 acre worth 275,000 for land only.

After my husband built my parents home within the first 6 years of living here on our acre with an old old 1947 home that needs work right next to them ( and they have the oddescity . My parents would say kind things. “Thank you for being here and helping us, there were no arguments or division all sisters were welcome here and cousins (lots of fun happy pics) and all of us as a family got along. Then, fast forward to today, the land next door that we gave to parents was purchased by little sister and husband whom was married before with three children. Then had two kids with with my baby sister. But, one day, she said I was “mean”, of course I was struck how selfish that comment was bc I had never done a thing mean to her and she never told me what it was. I figured giving land for free was a kindness that many adult kids never do for a parent so how in the world are we mean! Anyways, I asked my mother, do you need to choose between us? So, bc my baby sister got her way, my mother chose! She had a big inheritance coming from her husband’s rich parents and that must have appealed to my mom too. Anyways, as the years unfolded, my baby sister secretly, was figuring out a way to get rid of me behind our backs. We had three grown children that are college educated and good families after leaving home. Yet what my mom decide to do with my baby sis and older sis (who has a gambling and drinking problem). Who also married a older man for money combined forces to talk my mom into getting rid of my husband and I and disinherit us. Well, here we live disinherited motherless while the four sisters were given money to never talk to me and my husband again. Sometimes, I shake my head in disbelief, did this really happen and of course it’s unfair. The youngest on Christmas, I saw a pic wears a Christmas Sweater with a Shark on it, lol which clearly is quite funny in a sick way. She was able to talk my mother into getting rid of us and getting the 275,000 in land we gifted (todays value). She paid off that house and land early and purchased two other properties making her even wealthier not giving us any acknowledgment for our gift to my parents. The other sisters got a big chunk of monies to never tell where my mother is or how she’s doing health wise either, which of course I would always want to know! So the moral of the story, giving big can be forgotten by a selfish parent. On top of that devised away to have all the other three lie that we don’t exist and never talk to us. How do tell people our mother disowned us bc my baby sis threw a fit. Which when growing up, she ALWAYS got her way by getting everything she wants, so being a backbiting lying snake worked for her. On top of that, she’s a caregiver. lol… I truly believe she really doesn’t care!! She’s a opportunist and will even devour her own sister to take anything that she rightfully deserves… Now she won’t let me see my own mother next door or take care of her (my mom won’t talk to me) bc my sis has POA… Tell me, who is the “mean one” bc I have never felt like a mean person. Yet, they cover everything up by paying the other 3 sisters to never tell how she is… Now no one talks to us. I wish as a orphan bc my mom and dad asked us to come to this fine city 40 years ago, Valley Center, CA, to help them. Enters baby sis, we lose are parents, (which were abusive, father beat two older sisters) now mom, is cold as ice to us, bc God Knows what she whispers in my moms ear… No one even tells us “why are we mean” even to this day. Our family must be so hard up for money, that the sisters decided to execute us for money then having a sister. The lies flow as well the enemies bc the lies are going to there kids and so on and so forth. We now wonder who will come at us next bc they believe the lies…. Surreal! All this bc we helped my mom and dad and now wants my mother (sis’s pet) to forget we exist. My mom 91 yrs is forgetting us and sounds so mean and hangup

Mamacrow Apr 9, 2024
I'd move away never to be heard from again! You "gave" the land to your mom as a gift. So let it go! Move on with you life and try to make some happiness for your own children. I'd disown all of my sisters if this were me! Sorry you're going through this! Very sad situation!

Evamar Apr 9, 2024
Agree, sell it and get away.
True, you deserve more, but parents can choose how they distribute their wealth.
My husband who took care of his parents when they moved near him left beautiful house worth millions now to his useless brother.
Why? Who knows? But my husband was successful so maybe brother who could not hold a job needed that more.
I am proud that we both never got a penny from anyone and are totally self sufficient.

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JoAnn29 Apr 9, 2024
I agree, sell ur house and get far away.

Fawnby Apr 8, 2024
At 91, chances are that your mom has some dementia going on. She forgets things, including you. Reading all the rest of it, I suggest that you sell your old 1947 home and get away from all these people before something happens that you can't leave.

We get to choose where we live.

NeedHelpWithMom Apr 8, 2024
Wish that I could help but I’m having trouble following your story.

Can you please scale down this post for us and tell us more specifically what you want to know?

Hoping this situation will work out for your family. I’m sorry that you’re hurting right now. Wishing you peace.

AlvaDeer Apr 8, 2024
This sounds like some quite complicated family history and family dynamics.
I am sorry to say I think you might be better off about 1,000 miles away from family.
Of late that seems to be my answer to everything!

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