Did I fail my sister?

My sister (34F) had to move into my parent’s place a year ago, as she lost her place. From April to August things were going ok, until my father had to have his leg amputated and he went to different nursing homes from August until he passed away the morning after thanksgiving. I was my father’s primary caregiver and durable power of attorney taking care of the nursing home placement and his care. I was also financially responsible to each nursing facility that he went to, all while I worked full time. While my father was in the nursing home, my sister stayed at my dad’s apartment with my stepmom. During the time my sister was staying with my parents, her car was broken into and she quit her job. My sister and stepmom didn’t really get along too well.

Long story short, after my father died, I had to identify my father’s body at the hospital. I also planned and paid for his memorial service. My father did not have life insurance and though I wanted to give him the traditional funeral with a casket, etc., I had to have him cremated and I planned the memorial service for a month out and paid on it every two weeks.

My stepmother, once my dad died, only asked me about the death certificates. I had a feeling that my sister was no longer working, but I never asked. I just encouraged her to regain her independence and I sent her CashApps when I could. On the day of my father’s memorial service, my sister did not attend. After the memorial service, I went to my parent’s apartment and after an hour of dragging it out of her, my sister finally told me that she quit her job in August and had been unemployed for 4 months.

She continued to stay with my stepmother after the memorial service and I sent her money when I could. My stepmother and sister continued to bicker and my stepmother kicked her out.

I picked my sister up and bought her to stay with me 3 months ago. I kept money in her pocket and I covered all the expenses, I also bought her a cell phone, as hers was off for some time.

I noticed that she was dealing with symptoms of depression. I have seen them in her, because I suffer from depression, myself. Whenever I bring up therapy or her talking to someone, she snaps at me.

Over the course of the last 3 months, I have told her to go to temp agencies and to apply to any job that she could, just so she could cover her own expenses. For three months, she says she was looking and applying, but nothing panned out. I encouraged her to apply for assistance and to physically go to the temp agencies and to just get A job. Whenever I bring up her getting a job, she snaps at me.

Three days ago, I compiled a list of job openings and links to apply for assistance. I asked her if she at reviewed it and she ignored me. For two days I waited and I asked her again and she snapped at me. Ultimately we got into a shouting match and I told her that she had to go stay with our mother (parents divorced 30 years ago and mom is a bit estranged).

I’m only a year older than my sister and I thought I was doing right by her, but she fought me every step of the way.