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renee1978 Asked April 21, 2024

My mom was in a rehabilitation center and signed herself out.

My mom was in a rehabilitation center and signed herself out even though she was hardly able to walk, her mobility was very limited. Later that night my mom passed away in a fire, due to not being able to get out. I don't understand how they can let her leave knowing she can't hardly move.

Daughterof1930 Apr 22, 2024
This is heartbreaking, I’m so sorry it happened and wish you healing and comfort

Rogerwyatt7890 Apr 21, 2024
That is terrible. I'm so sorry. The rehab place should have called someone before she checked out I would think.
AlvaDeer Apr 21, 2024
They needn't do this for a competent person, Roger. I sure agree it would have been nice, but it is a violation of privacy in some person's minds. I think I would have skirted the rules were I on duty. I agree with you. I would have snuck in a call to Mom's family listed as next of kin and said "I am worried about your Mom because she is choosing to leave us. I just wanted to warn you so you can check on her". Hopefully I wouldn't get in too much trouble there, but I COULD.

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lealonnie1 Apr 21, 2024
My condolences on the loss of your dear mother.

Rehab is not a prison. If your mother was of sound mind, she had the ability to sign herself out of rehab the same way she could've signed herself out of the hospital as well.

Wishing you peace and acceptance with the outcome of this unfortunate situation.

JoAnn29 Apr 21, 2024
As said, if Mom was not incompetent, Rehabs are not jails. But, I do question them sending her home alone and hardly able to walk. Could this be considered an unsafe discharge if they were aware there was no care for her at home? Was a family member alerted that she was being discharged so the discharge person could be told there was no one to care for her. How did she get home?
PennyBob Apr 21, 2024
Who determines competency? My LO’s physicians seem to be unwilling to say much of anything and she just scored 6 out of 30 on the latest test.
crazyone Apr 21, 2024
I am so very sorry for your loss. I also questioned some of the moves made when my mom was in a rehab facility. Get the records from the rehab immediately. God bless.

Geaton777 Apr 21, 2024
I'm so sorry for your loss and the very distressing circumstances in which it happened. May you receive peace in your heart.
Anxietynacy Apr 21, 2024
Thoughts and prayers 😓
AlvaDeer Apr 21, 2024
If a person is competent the law doesn't allow them to be held against their wishes.
Rehab is NOT a JAIL!
Rehab had no right to hold your mother if she was competent to make her own decision. They can only warn and advise, and they almost always make thorough notes that they have done so.

I am terribly sorry for your loss. This is a great tragedy that will serve, by your posting it here, to warn all seeing it what can happen.

Do know that your mother may have been overcome by smoke to the extent that she never really understood a fire was happening until it was far too late. I hope that was the case for you. This happens often to even well and able people.

Your mother may have been asked to sign a AMA (against medical advice) form in rehab. Do you know that is the case. They usually ask for such a thing when it is their opinion that a person is leaving who may be endangering themselves. However, there is no stipulation by law that a person MUST sign the AMA. Really, as I said, this isn't a jail.

Now, if your mother was not competent at the time she left you should discuss this with an attorney.
However, know that few such cases are taken on contingency.
As Igloo once said here, the truth is that when someone is elderly there is little recourse or recompense under the law.

I am so very sorry for this loss. Often in loss we wish to be angry and to blame so that we don't have to enter the dark woods of grieving. It has to be heartbreaking. Please don't blame yourself. There was nothing you can do when elders take it in their own minds to leave when they needed further help. And to be with her 24/7 wasn't the option; it would have only enabled her bad choice. Your mom make a bad choice that had a tragic outcome. It's a very human thing to do. We always think we are more able than we really are.
Do understand that she may have died in this manner even with months of rehab.

Again, I am so very sorry for your loss.
JoAnn29 Apr 21, 2024
Well said

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