Hi,
My Mom has had dementia for approximately 7 years, I long for the old Mom but come to the realization those days are gone. About 4 years ago my sibling took on the care of Mom. She now lives about approximately an hour to hour and half from me depending on traffic. I used to have Mom in my life about 3 -5 days a week. My relationship with Mom has suffered not only geographically but also because of Dementia. I don’t get to visit as much as I like to because of my busy life. I had to sell Moms house and she tells me she should be coming home soon. I have to tell her house is fine and I get her mail. I think when I visit it triggers that memory of her house. This disease is awful and not only robs Mom but also her children who are watching her decline. My Mom is in a more advanced stage of dementia. My last visit was the usual repeating and her being mixed up. Mom will not remember that I was there but it’s in the moment. It’s very sad and I’m going to cherish my time with Mom when I see her.
I place her in Gods hands. Anyone deal with being heartbroken?
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of the hardest things I’ve have to accept and deal with. It is a daily concern I have about Mom but I do know she is in good hands. I do pray and ask God to take care of Mom. It still hurts because I miss the old Mom Anyway thanks again
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Getting older is not for wimps. It's a sad and frustrating time of life. Nobody likes to experience the various illness, frustration and disappointment that their lives are ending. It's not something we can control.
If you are religious, go to your church for help and faith in hard times. If you aren't religious, there are metal health hotlines, support groups, and sometimes helpful family members and friends.
I have dealt with heartbreak in many difficult subjects. I have lost my parents, my sister, my beloved husband, my best friend of 32 years, even my beloved dog. I have had a brutal divorce, lost jobs, struggled to survive financially. Life is not a bowl of cherries, and can get very hard. I don't know why I'm here!!
All I do is keep moving forward the best I can. Dwelling on sadness only gets you in a bad place. I focus on happy memories, which is all that we are left.
It does take time to heal. I wish you a happier future!
It's a horrible deasses and so hard on everyone that's invested in it.
Sounds like you have a good family and good support. In that you are lucky. Looking at the positive things you have helps a lot
And it's ok to be sad, it's normal and healthy, just don't let sadness run into depression.
Good luck West, your not alone
The one good thing here is that you and your sister are attempting to do care together and to keep your mother safe and well cared for. For many here there is bickering and fighting and dissension over the parent. Not to say that makes your grief easier, but in some senses it may be a comfort to you.
It's a horrible disease that leaves many broken hearts in its wake.
So just make sure that you're enjoying whatever time you may have left with your mom and make sure that you leave nothing left unsaid.
God bless you.