Mom moved in with us because she could no longer care for herself. Mother lived in an apartment and sibling would come over bossing her, verbally abusing her and continually asking for money and still does over the phone. Always begging for money and when mom refuses she leaves nasty down grading messages. Can she still get a court order to see my mother? My husband loves my mom like his own mother and refuses to let sibling visit.
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I would block sisters calls but not before I taped them. I would get a ring camera just in case she comesvto ur house. If Mom is competent, if she does notcwantbto see or hear from sister, get it in writing with a witness and notary. See what u can do about a restraining order.
If your Mom has all her faculties then she gets to decide what happens and whether she wants to tolerate this treatment.
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Is it all about you and sis, because, yes, she may be able to arrange mandated visits if she goes to court. UNLESS MOM DOESN'T want to see her.
Did she file in court? It's expensive. So that may be a threat.
If she filed in court you may need to attend. You may need to explain WITH PROOF what actual threat she poses to your mother.
You see your mother lives with you.
She has rights as this being her home.
One of those rights is to see your sister.
So MOM would have to say SHE doesn't want your sister visiting. Once you make your home hers it isn't only about you and your squabble with a bossy sister.
Dependent on whether you can or cannot be in court will decide whether sister can visit ACCOMPANIED by a social worker or can visit alone. This is somewhat akin to a custody hearing.
If she wins in court and comes with an order you do, yes, have to let her in.
Have CAMERAS EVERYWHERE. If she is disruptive then you can go to court yourself and get a stay away order on behalf of your mother IF YOU ARE POA.
It may be time to see an elder law attorney to find out rights here and law for your area.
Wish you good luck.
Siblings at War is my least favorite subject. It tears their parents in two as surely as King Solomon's sword would rend the baby. And it hits parents at their most vulnerable. SO TRY HARD for your mom. It take two to fight.
Now, if your MOM doesn't want Sis around, call APS and let them come interview her.
Good luck.