Has anyone ever dealt with a parent only wanting to use the bathroom (bowel movement) when visiting with them?

Why on earth do you not leave the room? This is about dignity and having someone watch is awkward at best, gosh, no wonder he glares at you.

Do you sense that he is anxious when he sees you, which could bring about what you describe?

If I were you, I would leave the room when he's on the commode. Nurse shows up, you go for a walk.

He's looking for attention, this is one way to get it.

I have no doubt it’s because you are there and I guess he feels “safer”

My mom had a phobia about not being near a bathroom when she needed one.

She would go to the bathroom before leaving the house for doctor appointments, hair appointments, etc.

As soon as we arrived, she would look for the nearest bathroom. She was losing control over being able to control when she went to the bathroom.

Mom must have urinated a bazillion times a day! Her bowel movements went back and forth between normal, constipation and diarrhea.

I learned to get her to appointments early because if I didn’t, they would inevitably call her name when she was in the bathroom.

Our physical bodies change as we age and we don’t have the control over our bodily functions like we used to.

Mom ended up using Depends. The Poise pads were no longer as effective for her.

Wishing you and your dad well.

I am clueless on this one.

My dad did the same thing. Whenever anyone came over he had to go to the bathroom. He would stay in there for an exorbitant about of time. In hindsight, I know he was using it as an avoidance tactic.