Children would like me to bring home spouse in nursing home.

Why are your children blind to the fact that you're 87 and in no condition to care for a bedbound elder 24/7????? Tell your children to feel free to turn THEIR home into a nursing home, quit their jobs if they have one, or their hobbies, their social times, and devote themselves to the 24/7 care and maintenance of a very ill man who needs a team of caregivers to attend to him. Perhaps they can all move in together to care for their dad, but you're unable to do it. Period.

tell them " he can go stay with them "

Ask them to which of their homes you will be bringing him because it most certainly will NOT be to yours.

Happy Mother's Day! Enjoy today.

Tell them it is NOT THEIR BUSINESS and to HUSH.
How about that for telling them.
They have seen you attempt to caregive. They should be ashamed of themselves. Tell them that they are the children and if they and their spouse would like to take him in and do 24/7 care that's just fine but they should know that you will not be talking about it, assisting them in any way.

It truly is not right that you hold yourself hostage to the opinions of these children. YOU are the ones concerned here.
I would call them together and would say:
"We will speak about this once NOW and NEVER AGAIN.
I have done the best I am able to do for your father.
When it is your turn to make decisions for your spouse, and that's coming around the bend momentarily, then it will be your turn to make and live with those decisions.
You have a right to your own opinion about my choices, but I do not wish to hear them, so I am telling you that if you speak about this in my presence again I will ask you to leave, or I will myself leave you."

WHY in the WORLD do you feel you owe them an explanation. This is totally not their business.
As I said, they should be ashamed of themselves.

Are they suggesting that you hire in-home care for him?

Or is their concern that "their inheritance" is being spent on his care?

Tell them to shut up. Then go about your business. At 87 you can’t provide home care for their dad. Let them do it. They will have all that fun time with him and make lots of memories together. And you, m’dear, will still be enjoying life free of the burden that no one should be taking on.

Tell them if THEY want dad out of the Skilled Nursing facility THEY can bring him to THEIR home and THEY can care for him 24/7/365.
You do not have to justify your reasons for wanting him to remain where he is.

I agree. Say NO, and if that doesn't work tell them to move him in their home. Is one or more of them his PoA?

Thank everyone for your helpful advice. I feel so much better and less guilt ridden.

I can’t believe they expect an 87 year old to take this on at home .
Tell the kids to go spend a day with Dad in the nursing home and do all the care for him , then they will see why you can’t do it !!