Rodger, just read ur first post. Is Mom still in her home, yours or you are living with her? You say in that post that siblings don't help because Mom has always been difficult. You also say you retired and went right into caring for Mom.
I really feel that, like me, you are not a caregiver. And thats OK. My Mom was easy, I can't imagine caring for someone who is difficult. Mom does not get to make decisions for herself. Not when it effects someone elses life. Mom has a house, sell it and place her in a nice Memory Care. Its no longer what she wants, its what she and you need. Your roles have reversed. Believe me, better to be the son visiting than the caregiver. A weight will be taken off your shoulders. Will still need to pick up depends and toiletries but you will be so much happier.
Sorry if you don't think this forum is a good fit. We tend to be blunt and honest at times. We can sympathize to a point but then it becomes, if you want to continue to care for Mom, you just need to put ur big boy pants on and do it. Why try to do her hair when its so much easier to let her hair dresser do it. Hire an aide a few hours a day or week. I was able to find a women who bathed Mom 3x a week for me. No one can do this job 24/7. If she has money, spend it.
Roger, I actually don't know. I sure do recommend Facebook to you. I absolutely love it. It has a Forum for just about ANYTHING and when my brother was first diagnosed with Lewy's I went to FB for a support group and it was an absolute education. There was even a Lewy's Dementia page RUN by a man who HAD IT and lectured around the country about it. Figure that!
Do know that AgingCare itself has a Facebook page. If you ask the question about pages specific to what you want you would get a good list I would think perhaps off that page. I have found many sites for women dealing with breast cancer, and I even found a site specific to a medication, believe it or not. I do mostly art and craft on FB, and such sites as Peeling Paint and Laundry, believe it or not! But there's a world of folks out there. I keep my friends list down to about 70, and feel like I know each person I "know".
I have heard of a few Forums and I think AARP has one? Not sure. I have never gone exploring because I love AC and over 5 years have formed even some "friendships". We are a very unique group I think and exceptionally diverse. I would say that we have a very diverse thought on things as well. So for me this is "home".
Just google "Aging Care Forums" and I would be you have a world of choice. I am so surprised you can manage more/want more than this one. For me it would be hard to find the time as I am already three to four hours every a.m. between Facebook, AC and Nextdoor, to say nothing of catching up with my daughter.
Good luck in your search. Do let us know if you find one you love.
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That would be great information to contribute here.
Interesting, lots of info.
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I really feel that, like me, you are not a caregiver. And thats OK. My Mom was easy, I can't imagine caring for someone who is difficult. Mom does not get to make decisions for herself. Not when it effects someone elses life. Mom has a house, sell it and place her in a nice Memory Care. Its no longer what she wants, its what she and you need. Your roles have reversed. Believe me, better to be the son visiting than the caregiver. A weight will be taken off your shoulders. Will still need to pick up depends and toiletries but you will be so much happier.
Sorry if you don't think this forum is a good fit. We tend to be blunt and honest at times. We can sympathize to a point but then it becomes, if you want to continue to care for Mom, you just need to put ur big boy pants on and do it. Why try to do her hair when its so much easier to let her hair dresser do it. Hire an aide a few hours a day or week. I was able to find a women who bathed Mom 3x a week for me. No one can do this job 24/7. If she has money, spend it.
I think they may have a Forum.
I sure do recommend Facebook to you. I absolutely love it. It has a Forum for just about ANYTHING and when my brother was first diagnosed with Lewy's I went to FB for a support group and it was an absolute education. There was even a Lewy's Dementia page RUN by a man who HAD IT and lectured around the country about it. Figure that!
Do know that AgingCare itself has a Facebook page. If you ask the question about pages specific to what you want you would get a good list I would think perhaps off that page. I have found many sites for women dealing with breast cancer, and I even found a site specific to a medication, believe it or not. I do mostly art and craft on FB, and such sites as Peeling Paint and Laundry, believe it or not! But there's a world of folks out there. I keep my friends list down to about 70, and feel like I know each person I "know".
I have heard of a few Forums and I think AARP has one? Not sure. I have never gone exploring because I love AC and over 5 years have formed even some "friendships". We are a very unique group I think and exceptionally diverse. I would say that we have a very diverse thought on things as well. So for me this is "home".
Just google "Aging Care Forums" and I would be you have a world of choice.
I am so surprised you can manage more/want more than this one. For me it would be hard to find the time as I am already three to four hours every a.m. between Facebook, AC and Nextdoor, to say nothing of catching up with my daughter.
Good luck in your search. Do let us know if you find one you love.