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Chrisb240791 Asked May 26, 2024

My grandmother recently appointed me her power of attorney. She mismanage money and never made home improvements so she had to sell house.

When I moved in to take care of her cuz her caregiver assaulted her and went to prison she had no water well we got an estimate of around $20,000 to dig a well who knows how much it really could have cost but at that point she realized and I realized she would never have water there again we did not have that type of money I didn't she didn't but she had a old form House of barn and four acres in Virginia which once was 90 acres well at that point she made me power of attorney because she had to sell and relocate fully understood this so we put her property up for sale it took a year to sale no inspection as is takes a certain buyer well we relocated to West Virginia affordable property bought a new house two and a half hour drive like home but away from home we stayed at motel for 2 weeks while we currently viewed properties but the whole time I think she really resented me for relocating her and selling her property for the whole year at her other property she would look at me every other day and say I'm calling a plumber and getting the water fixed and I would tell her the same thing we have called a couple plumbers we know what's up don't waste no more money on estimate the meantime while we had no water I was busy taking care of her and couldn't work because honestly I couldn't shower so we finally got this move done and she just hated me for what I done the new house is 76,000 new furniture motel Fair U-Haul storage unit gas it was a very costly two weeks but I'm so thankful it wasn't no longer I did purchase a Subaru outback $18,000 vehicle when I moved in with her I had a Ford escape that had over 200,000 miles on it and it was not the most reliable so being her power of attorney im it for the long run I'm here for whatever she needs for the Long haul in the meantime I was dealing with an individual that is confused and horribly impatient but she has her moments God love her but the U-Haul was very expensive to get her stuff out of our house into a storage unit in the county where we once lived couldn't take it nowhere else because at that point we didn't know what property we are going to buy so that was the best location for it well once we found the place we're going to purchase I made 8 trips back to my storage unit to load everything up on top of the vehicle in the vehicle I paid $348 for a U-Haul somehow for keeping it overnight when he took the stuff from our property we sold to our storage unit in the same county so I just figured hey I'll make trips back and forth before I paid $2,000 to rent a U-Haul and drive it to another state two and a half hours away well the last trip to our storage unit a fellow is meeting us and he had a truck and a trailer and I had my Subaru that would have cleaned the storage unit out well the man got called back into work he's on call it's understandable he said I can't do it tonight I can do it in the morning I can be there 9:30 10:00 well I got a motel and decide it she had to be there overnight at 10:30 I looked at my security cameras seen law enforcement in our house well I immediately rushed back an officer said he was going to do me a solid and talk with her for hours he wasn't going to contact CPS where she had to go overnight or none of that stuff well the next day I was going to the DMV to trade my driver's license her ID and for a West Virginia id well the bank refuse to let me take any money out to pay for gas in the transfer of fees they were with whispering very unprofessional it was driving me crazy trying to figure out what was going on well I kind of lost my cool in the bank they never did tell me two weeks later and it don't protective service worker shows up she's investigating me for the whole sale of my grandmother's property in the use of her funds with no supporting facts of but really we had to do and what was going on but my grandmother made a report cuz she resents me now I'm I am being discriminated against because the circumstances what should I do

Midkid58 May 26, 2024
Wow--I didn't breathe while trying to read that.

Was there ever a period in that rant? I'm sorry, I'm putting you down--but I couldn't understand a thing you said.

Please take a deep breath (or 10!) and put your thoughts in order. Use some punctuation. Make paragraphs that make sense, please.

Nobody can help you if you don't make sense. Again, I'm not judging, b/c I have no idea what you're trying to say.

Try to organize your thoughts and comments. People will look at that post and scroll right by it.

JoAnn29 May 26, 2024
I was asked by a member to make my post more legible. I must not have reread. I am on a tablet using a stylus and my keyboard tends to add letters when a hit "space". Sometimes I catch it sometimes I don't. So here is my cleaned up version.

Just tell the APS caseworker what happened. I think the buyer of the house will confirm that they had to pay for a new well Grand Mom nor u could afford to do. That you took her money and bought her a house. That you became her caregiver because the last one assaulted her and there is proof of that. That you care for her because she has Dementia.

The worst that could happen is your asked to leave. Then Grand Mom is on her own. That probably will not happen. APS has to investigate. They will evaluate GM and look into your story.
AlvaDeer May 26, 2024
I myself just thought that you had "caught" the OP's manner of writing. I had to stop reading because I couldn't do it without punctuation; aging brain wouldn't allow me to do her post.

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JoAnn29 May 26, 2024
Just tell the APS caseworker what happen. Ibthink the buyer of the house will confirm that they had to oay for a new well GM nor u could afford to do. That you took her money and bought hera house. That you became her caregiver because the last one assaulted her andvthere is proof of that. That you care for her because she has Dementia.

The worst that could happen is your asked to leave. Then GM is in her own. That probably will not happen. APS has to investigate. They will evaluate GM and look into your story.

AlvaDeer May 26, 2024
Sorry. Had to stop reading because of lack of punctuation.

KNance72 May 26, 2024
It has been Like a roller coaster ride and I never Know what is around the corner . Welcome to the World Of Caregiving . Sounds Like you are doing your Best . We do the best we Know How , wether it is selling a Place , Paying taxes, fixing a car , dealing with adult protective services, doctors, nurses , case managers , social workers , Hospitals , Banks , stock markets, Money managers , Lawyers , court, etc. There isn't Much you can do but tell the truth . I had to sell 2 condos because the House was a money Pit : $28,000 for a new sewer Pipe, $10,000 for a new roof, $27,000 for new patios and Porches, Dealt with a gas company they thought they were going to have to dig up the street and my gas Line was leaking , Horrible condo owners on the first floor - One Had her Boy friend beat up my Dad because he had a garden . I had to go to court that cost $5000. it was always something - tenants Not Paying rent , other condo Owners Not Paying their share, Outrageous water Bills $330 - Really had to sell the Place - One Person got stabbed , another tenant Killed himself . People have no idea how hard It is to take care of someone else's Business and Life . My Dad was really fruity for sometime . I had to interview 13 realtors till I found the right guy . I got my Dad a lot of Money - he was suppose to buy a Place in Florida instead he dumped it all in the stock market . I did Not even get my commission because the Places had to be renovated , furnaces fixed . I asked him to Borrow his credit card to fix My Honda - new Owners took over Honda and tried ripping me Off But it was either fix the car or leave it behind. My Dad flipped Out . For years I Bought all the food and cleaning products, did the laundry, cleaned the House cooked . I never asked him for Many. When he couldn't find his check Book I paid the electrician $900 Out of My Pocket . I could go on and On . I Ran His Business for 12 years managing condos and tenants . I made him a lot of Money . Long story short my sister gets jealous and tries to take Over the stocks and POA because her Husband didnt pay His inheritance tax of $45,000 and blew through $ 2- $ 3 Million in 2 Years so Now My dad is a target . They made up stories about me and Kid napped My father 3000 Miles away form Home . Lied In Court said " I was stealing Money " all I ever did for 10 years was make a lot of Money and it was all invested . my car is 21 years Old, My clothes come form Good will If I was stealing Money I would not be sitting in a Old cold freezing House . Seriously You will have to consider How Much more of your Life you want to give up for this person because you won't get that time back . is she really worth It ? You did nothing wrong . Wells cost a lot of Money . I am not sure how Old you are or How old she is But your going to have to think Hard after this adventure and How Much More you really eat to be Involved with her .

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