Im the only one to take care of my mom and I work during the week. My mom is good about not trying to cook or go outside. She just sits all day and watches whatever is on the tv. She may read a little. I'm considering having someone come in to spend time with mom during the day so she will get some company now that my youngest son has moved out. I am anticipating a fight about having someone come; she will probably tell me she doesn't need anyone to come over. Curious how others experience has been. Also, I feel like grieving even when my mom is alive because the friend/helper I've known isn't there anymore. Anyone else feel that way?
We also hired outside help and one person stole a diamond ring. We have since removed the valuables and have put in a nanny cam and watch the new one like a hawk.
Mom likes the company. Our only problem is, is that these people will take advantage by watching soap operas, and not really taking care of moms needs. I have to leave to do lists and a menu of foods for mom. I also let them know what mom likes to watch and that they are paid to care for her and her needs, not to watch soaps and lay about. So far so good. Just remember that the way our parents were raised was to be hospitable, and accommodating and not to complain. I have to explain that we PAY this person, she isn't here out of the goodness of her heart. It's a very fine line.
Good luck with your situation and let us know how it's going.