I have been doing this for almost 2 yrs. Both have dementia and mom is on 24/7 oxygen. At present we have an aid 8hrs a day. The rest of the time is myself and my husband and periodically my daughter. They have been in and out of the hospital several times. Both have been in the hospital recently and dad was in rehab after a fall. I could not wait to get him out of there. They put in diapers and he is not incontinent. His dementia progressed and he was talking gibberish. Please, any support would be so helpful. I am at witts end and do not want to put them in a nursing facility.