My MIL is in a retirement apartment community building that is mixed independent living (but with meals served) and assisted living. Of course, they have been on lockdown but my 92 year old MIL broke the rules 3 times by driving herself to the hairdresser & store, doctor and bank. She was quarantined to her apartment by management for 2 week periods several times. We were supposed to go pick up checks from her and deposit them into her bank tomorrow but she says that they are "all open" at her place now and she can come and go as she pleases. (This is in PA.) She is a narcissist and she lies. My husband believes her about this. But I am not so sure it is true. Has anyone heard of retirement facilities being "all open" now? My MIL told my husband to stay out of her business a couple months ago but still expected him to run some errands for her during lockdown. I don't think he cares what she does or does not do anymore but I am afraid that, if she is lying, she may get kicked out of her facility for continuing to ignore the Covid rules.
Let it go and stop stressing yourself out over this. It won't change one thing.