do i have any say in his care or any way to get answers about what is going on or does his new wife have all the control? she is not very intelligent at all and doesnt comprehend or relate medical issues well. she didnt even tell he was in there! i found out three days after he was in NICU what can I do as of not he is still intibated and lightly sedated but mostly sleepy from the brain deposits from his progressing liver condition. so right now he cant speak or isnt alert to tell hospital himself to let me help what do i do
I am also sorry to hear of everyone
Else's stories.
My mom has worked in the nursing
Field for over 50 years. When her
dad had a stroke the day she meet
With her brother....they figured out
What to do. When she went home
She was crying because she was so
Happy because everything went
Well, she was happy because over
The years she has seen so many
Families fight, she was so glad that
Was not happening in her family.
Well her brother went to the lawyer
Changed everything.....the day before
My grandfather died, he ordered her
out of the room, she was going to
Kiss him on the forehead, he stopped
Her and said she was not to even
Touch him.,....in the hallway she
Meet the hospice nurse and told
Her what chapped....the hospice nurse
Said they didn't even have to tell her
He died....he went on and raided the
Estate....and cusses her to this day.
For everyone reading....no these stories
About dogs but humans.
How people can be so evil to their
siblings and parents are beyond me.
Can they make amins with their
Maker.....I don't really know
If not I am sure there is a special place
In hell for them.
I hope someone can work a miracle
For you to see your father in the
Neurology intensive care unit
May God walk with you and
Support and counsel you.
I have seen some really heartbreaking stories unfold regarding stepchildren of a "new" spouse, in my support group. It is sad and totally unnecessary.
In my case, my husband's three daughters and his two stepsons (my boys) were all supportive of my role in caring for him and in making decisions. I kept them informed and wouldn't dream of shutting them out, but I also knew that I was in charge. At his memorial service they each mentioned how glad they were that he had me to care for him.
We have new members of our support group. They are half-siblings and their ill parent is half a continent away. They are attending the meetings to be better informed about the disease and to better understand the issues being faced by the spouse of the ill parent. It is a large blended family, with step and half siblings all over the country, and they are all attending support groups where they are! That is my idea of how things should be. Whether you like the new spouse or not, working together to provide support for the parent's care should be the priority.
But we don't live in an ideal world. I hope you can work out a more satisfying access to your father.
I'm a second wife (really a 3rd wife) and the "kids" are not mine, but his.
I've no children myself as my first husband was KIA in Vietnam and it took me a terribly long time to risk marriage again as death really hurts.
My step children are so glad I'm here to look after their 80 year old father. The 2 older children are off doing their "thing" and are now multi millionaires due to their spouses! They travel, enjoy fabulous homes and give a call once or twice a year. Their brother that lives down the road from us is a convicted murderer and is totally dependent upon us for any and all his needs. He is a skitzo and paranoid so obviously not a great person to hang out with
.
Did you give her a reason to dislike you or not trust you?
Have "a smart" person read your post and point out the errors since you think you she is stupid.
Is your dad's liver problem due to booze?I
unteachable know it all = douchenozzle..
My mom is my grandpa's power of attorney. She is very negative, hostile and difficult to work with. I am my grandpa's caregiver Monday-Friday and my mom doesn't want me to become one of my grandpa's power of attorneys because she wants the superiority and wants to control everything. Unfortunately, I don't have a say in it even though I take care of him, cook and prepare his meals, give his meds, take him to daycare, help assist with his bath, do his laundry, hygiene, etc. All my mom wants to do is sit and complain and have something negative to say about what I do and she talks bad about me to other family members.
My mom didn't even tell me when my other distant relatives passed on. I had to hear it from other family members. My mom didn't even tell me when my grandma was sick when she was alive. She has lied and betrayed me and turned some of my family against me. That is the kind of mother I had. All I do is stay strong and keep moving forward and let "God" handle the rest.