She has dementia and is forgetting her pills and burnt a couple of pots on the stove and her Doctor stated she should not be living alone. But she refuses care in her home. Can I just get an aide to come in and tell her this is what she needs now, for her own safety. She is 88 and a little unsteady on her feet but refuses a cane.
Even to this day I can still hear Mom in the background saying "If I need your help, I will call you", when the Caregiver called me saying that Mom wants her out of the house. Mom also wouldn't use a walker, and didn't like using her cane, she felt it made her look old. Sadly two weeks later Mom fell and never returned back to that house, she passed 3 months later.
My Dad is now in Independent Living, happy as a clam with his new apartment as he doesn't want what happened to my Mom to happen to him. He accepted his age decline.
Our parent(s) can become very stubborn, dementia or not. They don't want to give up their freedom, nor do the women want another woman doing the cooking in THEIR kitchen or cleaning THEIR house.