My aunties (my Grandmothers daughters) want to take my grandma away to the islands against her will, my grandmother has been told by the doctors she only has few days/weeks to live and my grandmother would like to pass away here in the country we are in until she Is gone, then be shipped to the islands, but instead my aunties want her to go to the islands now, I feel helpless as this is not what my grandmother wants, and I want to protect her wants and needs
Are you her primary caregiver? Is the parent who is related to the aunties still in the picture and in agreement with this move? Are you quite young and not able legally to help?
Willt.c.a., I agree with both Book and E/lass that the decision about travelling rests:-
1. with your grandmother, if she has the mental capacity to understand her condition; then
2. with whoever has Power of Attorney to act on your grandmother's behalf (there won't necessarily be a person with POA, it isn't always set up); then
3. with next of kin, but that person's or those persons' authority to act would be more limited, especially if she or they were not supported by expert medical opinion.
Continue to advocate for your grandmother: you can't go wrong doing that as long as you're SURE you're standing by what she herself really wants. Is there some important cultural reason or tradition that makes your aunts so anxious to take her back to the islands?
I agree with what bookluvr said. The Dr. can write a note stating that your grandma shouldn't be traveling but it's not really worth the paper it's written on. If your aunt's are hellbent on doing this and grandma goes along with it there's not much you can do.
Does anyone have POA (power of attorney) over your grandma? Is it one of grandma's daughters? I think, even if one of them has POA, if the doctor says she's not fit to travel, then they need to honor that. But it may not stop them since they're determined to get her back to the islands.