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Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
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chainsaw071, you need to think that your Mom is in a nursing home for a good reason. She needs a much higher level of care than one person can provide at home.
I can understand your willingness to bring Mom home. Your profile states that your Mom has Alzheimer's/Dementia. Thus Mom must be in a stage that requires a ton of help. Would you be ready to do the work for 3 full-time caregivers each and every day, with no time off, and very little sleep?
Usually what we see when we visit a nursing home for an hour or two might seem easy. What you need to do, with permission, is stay with Mom in her room for two or three days, staying overnight... then you would get the full picture of what type of care she needs. She could be awake most of the night wanting to go to the bathroom half dozen times. This is something you need to see for yourself and decide if you have the strength and patience to handle this type of care. I know I couldn't do it.
One doesn't need to have Power of Attorney to be the caregiver, but you would need to get permission from the person who does have the Power of Attorney.
Your mother has dementia and is in a nursing home. Other relatives have POA. Is this correct?
Obviously you moma loves you, trusts you, and wanted you to act on her behalf, or she wouldn't have named you POA. Take comfort from her trust.
But things have change since that first assignment of the POA to you. Your own health/mental health has deteriorated. So other arrangements had to be made.
If the other relatives who have POA also have medical POA and are opposed to her leaving the nursing home, then, no, you cannot bring her home. They now have the responsibility of deciding what is best for her.
But even if they didn't have that legal authority, bringing mother to live with you is probably not a good idea. Visit her long and often, demonstrate your love, while letting the professionals see to her daily needs. She needs you in her life, and that can happen best and most effectively if you remain healthy and stable.
Love your moma. Be good to yourself. Support her right where she is.
(Or as we said back in my youth, Bloom where you are planted now.)
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I can understand your willingness to bring Mom home. Your profile states that your Mom has Alzheimer's/Dementia. Thus Mom must be in a stage that requires a ton of help. Would you be ready to do the work for 3 full-time caregivers each and every day, with no time off, and very little sleep?
Usually what we see when we visit a nursing home for an hour or two might seem easy. What you need to do, with permission, is stay with Mom in her room for two or three days, staying overnight... then you would get the full picture of what type of care she needs. She could be awake most of the night wanting to go to the bathroom half dozen times. This is something you need to see for yourself and decide if you have the strength and patience to handle this type of care. I know I couldn't do it.
One doesn't need to have Power of Attorney to be the caregiver, but you would need to get permission from the person who does have the Power of Attorney.
Obviously you moma loves you, trusts you, and wanted you to act on her behalf, or she wouldn't have named you POA. Take comfort from her trust.
But things have change since that first assignment of the POA to you. Your own health/mental health has deteriorated. So other arrangements had to be made.
If the other relatives who have POA also have medical POA and are opposed to her leaving the nursing home, then, no, you cannot bring her home. They now have the responsibility of deciding what is best for her.
But even if they didn't have that legal authority, bringing mother to live with you is probably not a good idea. Visit her long and often, demonstrate your love, while letting the professionals see to her daily needs. She needs you in her life, and that can happen best and most effectively if you remain healthy and stable.
Love your moma. Be good to yourself. Support her right where she is.
(Or as we said back in my youth, Bloom where you are planted now.)