I cared for my Mom for 2 years prior to placing her. I know I don't want to go through what I did while she was in the early stages of Alheizmer prior to finally. Since then, she has progressed through different stages and is childlike. She recently suffered a snycopal episode (they really don't know what it was) and is now is fragile and requires greater support, which she does not get in the nursing home (I have been supplementing paying for CNA support 4 hours a day, 6 days a week). My Mom is 94 years old and has survived C-Dif 2x's, multiple bouts of pneumonia, and colds. She has a strong constitution! I don't have family members that can help me out or who would be willing to support me - they remember what I went through when I took care of her for those 2 years of her early stages - denial, anger, paranoia. I would have to seek the support from the caregiver's group that I used to belong to if I want to talk to anyone about what I'm going through. Has anyone been through a similar situation? I want to feel I have a good understanding of what to expect before I commit.
Good luck.
But it sounds to me like your mother is happy with they way things are, especially with the CNA. Why do you want to make a change? Could your goals be met simply by spending more time with her in the NH and on outings?
To answer Diavalon's question, my health is very good, but during those 2 years, I must admit I was a wreck before I placed her. She was "kicked out" of 2 residential homes before I found this nursing home - but then again, it was during the early stages of her dementia. I can't even imagine what horrific pain it must be to realize you're losing your ability to function - I suppose I would be angry myself and grasping onto anything that would stop the progression.
I don't expect to "give up my life" altogether. I won't make this mistake, although I don't know how much care will cost and how long Medicare will pay until their financial limits are reached. These are questions I need to explore and would appreciate if you have any information.
What do you think?
or increase her hours than to take on the task yourself. HOW is your health?