My sister will not allow the hospital or nurse to provide siblings information on my dying mother's health condition. Now she wants us to schedule 1 visit per day per sibling. The doctor said my mom is dying, we want to go see her before she dies to say our good bye. My sister the POA wants the siblings visit restricted to only one per day. There are six of us, she may die anytime. Can she do this?
BTW, did you guys help out POA sister at all?
My mom has Dementia so it is very important to stick to routine, If not she can become agitated & unruly. My Mom’s Dr. ordered a nurse & therapists to come to our home 3-4 times a week, 1 hr for each...that was a total wipe out...
In caregiving I have become temperamental & moody.
My Sister told me I have a bad attitude, Smh. I told her until, she cares for Mom from the moment she opens her eyes in the morning to when she closes them for sleep at nights, (if she sleeps), she had no room to judge my temperament.
When ppl ‘step in’ that have not helped care for the LO it can offset the routine..even if on deathbed. There’s still care that needs to be had.
Abide by your sisters wishes.. she probably could’ve used the help to give herself a sanity break when your Mom wasn’t on her deathbed.
Sorry, but there may even be a bit of resentment from your caregiver sister but otherwise she’s being totally reasonable.
GodSpeed...
If she is saying only one visit per day, that is another matter and means that there is a possibility that some of you might not get to see Mom and tell her in person you love her before she passes.
Is this a new rule? Have you all been helping care for Mom and visiting all along?
Please try to empathize with Sis too. This is a tough job physically and emotionally. She may be trying her best or she may be showing resentment at carrying the full burden. Figure out which one and act appropriately. Sis will be here long after Mom is gone. We all should know how precious family relationships are and that they can be fragile in times of stress. We all make mistakes and misinterpret at times, so try to give Sis credit for care and be supportive.
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