He has taken money out of her account and had it go to him. When can he legally do that? She moved last year to an apartment after 20 years of living in a house. She is doing fine fending for herself. My brother is a school teacher so he is busy with that. I help her when I can and so does my husband. She doesn't drive that often except to the store. She is lonely and she has told me that. That is why I think that moving to a nursing home/independent living would be a good idea for her. My brother doesn't know what assisted living means which I do. Not yet thinking about moving but looking at what is available. She is interested in doing this but will have my brother help her with the financial part of it. Want to make sure that she will have enough money for it.
As for Brother, we teachers tend to think we know it all and kind of resent being told we don’t. ;0). You may have to get around that with honey and sweet-talk. And, at his age, he may be getting burned out. It’s not the same teaching nowadays that it was when he was a young teacher.
If Mom is still sharp, and as you write, able to fend for herself, she probably isn’t ready for Assisted Living or a Nursing Home. Is she currently in a Senior Apartment? My mom lived in a really nice one. They had weekly bingo and also ran bus trips about once a month. The community transit also stopped right outside her door to take her shopping. Mom will need to make the effort though, to reach out to other residents for fellowship.