My 96-year-old mom has dementia. She also broke her hip and had surgery to repair in January. After nursing home and board & care stay, she is now living in my home. Her dementia will prevent her from ever returning to her mobile home and I must sell it. I've read all kinds of accusations about elder financial abuse by family members. But, my mom can afford to pay. Is it unethical to charge her to live in my home? The process of moving her from another state a couple of years ago into her mobile home and taking care of her and her mobile home and now moving her to my home has taken a huge toll on my time and my finances. I'd like to know the legal implications without having to pay an attorney for advice. I have my mom's POA. I am the executor of her trust when she passes. If I place my mom in a memory care or board and care facility it will cost far more than keeping her at my home. Please advise.
Someone asked on another thread. Who did you show the receipts to?
Was this to apply for Medicaid for your mom?
Jan
Since your mom has Alzheimer’s its quiet likely that she will need additional care in her future. Since you are her POA it would be a good idea to protect her ability to file for Medicaid should she need it in the future.
If you visit a certified elder attorney and go over her paperwork, you could have a care agreement drawn up to establish a proper paper trail for any authority that might question how you spent her money.
If you have siblings that might object, you would have the documents to back up your decisions and quieten any discord.
We all know how expensive it is to care for our loved ones. If your mom can afford to pay her way, there’s no reason for her not to. She ( and you) just need to make sure your ducks are in a row. A few dollars now mght well protect thousands in the future and give you peace of mind.