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My uncle came after two years of nothing, his mother and spending all the money that he made from a large property that he sold he unexpectedly showed up in my home kidnapped. His mother took her to Texas, which is the neighboring state, got her to sign over her pension on a power of attorney to her pension And then try to place her in a home when she was finally able to call me. I then went to retrieve her. This situation has caused financial displacement and my home to go into Foreclosure. I also take care of his intellectually challenged brother. My grandmother has advanced Alzheimer’s, even though she is back home where she belongs after I quit my UPS job at 120 thousand a year. To provide full-time care for both of them has caused me to financially depend on them while they depend on me further every day needs.

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You should never have quit your job. Your Uncle should be placed in a home where he can be cared for. Your Grandmother too. Or, live with them and set up in home care for them.

I read your other post and Geaton gave you some good suggestions.

I really don't think you can just file taxes giving them a figure of what Grandmom paid you. You need a W2 or a 1099. Your Uncle could really get you for financial abuse to an elderly person. Do you have POA? Does that POA say you can be paid? Did you and Grandmom make up a contract saying that you would be paid a certain amount of money for her care? And if u did, she had to be competent to do so. Without a contract, Medicaid will see the money you have recieved as gifting and if she ever needs Medicaid she will be penalized.

I think you led with your heart here. You did not think thru all that goes into caring for 2 people.
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Isthisrealyreal Feb 20, 2025
Joann, yes you can self report income without a w2 or 1099. Absolutely legal.
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Anyone can sue for any reason at any time, if you can find an attorney to take it on.

Can you win a lawsuit? That depends on the law that pertains to your case, because that is the only thing that matters, the written law, period.

A good attorney will tell you up front what the law is and how it impacts your case, a bad one will want a big retainer and try to work around the law, which will do nothing but cost you money for naught.
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First step should be to get your $120,000 a year job back or you will all end up homeless. You should not be living off of their pension. social security, disabilty, etc. payments.

You can't sue your uncle for financial displacement of yourself, since your grandmother has no obligation to support you.

Did he take over her pension and spend it on himself, or was he using it to pay the facility for her care under the POA?
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I will refer those attempting to reply, Jackson, to you other post to us involving income you ae being paid by your grandmother.
We are a Forum of strangers. We are not attorneys, and even if we were, we would not be privy to the details of any potential lawsuit.

Please contact an attorney.
Very sorry you are going through this, but we cannot advise you on legal actions.
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I can't help but ask, why in the world would anyone give up a job where they've been making (supposedly)$120,000/year to take on the care of 2 family members, and have to depend on them for money? That makes absolutely NO sense to me.
I believe that you need to get both family members placed in the appropriate facilities, so you can get back to work before you end up losing your home.
Then and only then should you even begin to think about suing anyone.
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You ned to find an elder attorney That deals with Elder abuse . Most of them Only deal with estates , trusts and Personal Injury at Nursing home But you will find someone Sympathetic to your cause . Many lawyers have seen this abuse before so you will Have to call around to Multiple Layers and everyone will give you a different answer . You have your grand Mother Back and you are caring for a sick Person . I think you have a strong case to Put this Guy In Jail where he belongs . You can get a Half Hour free consultation . It will be Hard since he is in Texas and you May need a Texas Lawyer . It will take a lot of work and every attorney will give you a different answer. Unfortunately Elder abuse is neglected and No one seems to care .
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Geaton777 Feb 20, 2025
We are only getting 1 side of the story. The OP says his house is in foreclosure yet he quit his high-paying job and is now angry at his Grandma's son (his Uncle), who FYI is next of kin, so without anyone having a PoA this may make him, and not the OP, the primary decision-maker for his Mother -- regardless that he's been caring for her all along or for however long it's been.

IMHO there's not enough accurate and objective info on this post to give any type of reasonable guidance except to advise the OP to get his old job back or find another new job. Now it's just emotional responses.
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You can sure try. You need to contact a good attorney in your area and ask for a consultation.
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Are you your Grandmother's PoA or legal guardian? If not you may need to lawyer up since this would make you the kidnapper.

In your other post you said she has advanced ALZ, and you just retrieved her from AL, so how is she a "breadwinner"?

Can't really answer the question of suing... too many unknowns and we aren't attorneys, which is who you now need to talk to.

In your other post (about paying yourself for their care) I also asked if you are the PoA or legal guardian for either of them. If not, how are they paying you if they are cognitively impaired? You really need to be honest and answer this question for full context or all the advice we give you will be skewed and worth nothing.
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