I no longer have a job. I am 77 years old and have many medical need right now, many doctor appointments to go to . I have been told not to drive any longer as I had a stoke and have 99% blockage in my carotid arteries. I need her help all the time and am afraid she may loose her job because of all the time she spends taking care of me.
My folks wanted me to quit my career, a career that I spent my adult life working toward and breaking those glass ceilings. If I had quit, no way my parents could pay the salary I was receiving... pay matching 401(k) funds... offer life insurance... pay for sick/vacation days... pay my health insurance (costs are higher when not part of a group insurance)... pay for continuing education.... and pay into my Social Security/Medicare.
Even though I wasn't hands-on caring for my parents (in their 90's) at that time in this journey, the stress cause cancer which turned my life upside down. That was 15 years ago, I never got back to normal. I never got to enjoy the wonderful retirement that my parents had. My parents have passed but the resentment is still pretty raw.
You don’t get much subsidised care because you no longer drive and have many doctors appointments. If you ‘need your daughter’s help all the time’, you are most unlikely to get an income for her ‘all the time’. If you need around the clock care every day of the week, 1to1 care is not economic. Your daughter needs to keep her job for her future independence. You need to look at options for a facility. More information, please!
The US is disgraceful in its care of its aging population. There's going to be a reckoning as baby boomers retire and need help. It's important who we put in political office.
I am glad that you are considering your daughter and her future.
However it won't be anywhere near what she is making now, and she needs to continue to work so she can contribute to her Social Security for when she gets ready to retire.
I know that you don't want to interfere with that.
So in all honesty it's probably best that you instead look into getting yourself placed in the appropriate facility where you will receive the care you obviously require and your daughter can continue to work and just be your daughter and advocate and not your burned out and underpaid caregiver.
I wish you well in getting your care figured out.