I am 17 and live with my mum step dad and nanny. my nanny has her own house but has been living with us since she broke her arm and hip, and had bladder cancer. she can walk but not well, she barely eats and sometimes has falls which is quite scary because i am not strong enough to help her up.
My parents are planning to move into my nannys house soon, and they wanted me to go with them originally but I don't get on with them well and i couldn't leave my nanny on her own.
my nanny doesn't really get on with my parents either, but i have a boyfriend and we want to move in together. he has his own house with a well paying job. I would love to move out, i feel mature enough and ready. but i cant leave her on her own
advice please?
This is difficult enough for besties!
Sounds dysfunctional, as in most relationship the fault or success lies in all parties, so do not feel too sorry from granny, her daughter is of her own making, so if they do not get along it is neither your fault, nor your responsibility / ability to fix.
Sounds like she has a large enough house, perhaps she should downsize and move to ALF.
It would be very unfair for her to count on a 17 yo to be her daily caregiver. You can and should remain in her life as a frequent visitor, but not taking on the daily chores.
Also, aside from caregiving advice, I have to say, young love is very hope-filled and fickle......please study something, anything that allows you some personal development, and a job should you need to maintain yourself and your children in the future.
Please wait to have children until you and your HUSBAND are stable in employment and have some savings and a life plan that excites both of you.
Please avoid children until you are at least in your 20s....