Hello, I am one of three siblings taking care of my father. He is at home and is in hospice care. We each take a week to care for him by moving in and being with him. This has been going on for almost a year. My two siblings live close (one 5 minutes away and the other 90 minutes away). I live 600 miles away and have been driving to and from at my own expense. Between gas and tolls I spend over $200 each trip. I feel like I should be reimbursed but my siblings feel that it was my choice to live so far away. Am I being unreasonable? Finances are not an issue for my father. I don't want to cause a family rift but feel like I'm being penalized. Any one else have a similar situation?
If he's more than covering your siblings' expenses then that's gravy for them, but it doesn't leave you out of pocket. I'm not sure what their justification for accepting the $300/week gift is but I certainly wouldn't lose any sleep over it. Are you also losing income doing your 1-in-3 care rota?
Tell your siblings that you can no longer participate in dad's care unless you are reimbursed for travel and lodging expenses.
Who has POA?