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? So your father is covering your expenses, then?

If he's more than covering your siblings' expenses then that's gravy for them, but it doesn't leave you out of pocket. I'm not sure what their justification for accepting the $300/week gift is but I certainly wouldn't lose any sleep over it. Are you also losing income doing your 1-in-3 care rota?
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You're not being unreasonable at all. Many POA documents specify exactly this sort of thing, and claiming back travel and subsistence costs would not be unusual. What's your siblings' objection? - whatever it is, I'd bet they'd squeal a lot louder if you pointed out that travelling to share the care is also a choice and one you can't afford at the current rate. The burden is not equal and it isn't fair.
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Have you asked your father? If his health issue is cancer, his mind is fine, and money is not an issue, it’s something he can decide. No need for your brothers to judge.
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teamcare Feb 2022
My father has always been very fair and his solution was to give us each $300 a week while we are here to cover our expenses. I don't feel this is fair because it still penalizes me while my siblings will be pocketing the funds. When I told him my feelings he said it is my choice to live in another state (which is exactly what my one sibling said so he may be parroting her).
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The only behavior you can control is your own.

Tell your siblings that you can no longer participate in dad's care unless you are reimbursed for travel and lodging expenses.

Who has POA?
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teamcare Feb 2022
My sibling that lives in town is his POA however, my dad is still making all the financial decisions as his mind is still sharp.
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