I am afraid of losing my job due to my father being ill, and having to take time to help him. I am distraught. My dad is finally going Assistant living. I have had problems with productivity at work and now my job is threatened. I have not been at the job long enough to get family leave. What do I do? My dad is moving right away.
I don't discuss to my bosses my home life situation - only on a need-to-know basis. I learned this the hard way. Long time ago, I used to update them in a friendly way. Then, when lecture time came, boss went on and on about my home life interfering with my job. He gave me options and I had to make a decision. So, I learned to SEPARATE my home life with my job. I now only update them on any major changes...like when dad has a stroke and is now bedridden.
Like several posters said above. When you go to work, you must concentrate completely with your job. Learn to put aside the home life. Maybe you can call home during breaks.
You have need to understand that no matter your circumstances a body of work must be completed and completed correctly. When you visit wtih your boss don't just ask for understanding. Present a plan on how you can perform and get the job done correctly. Come with an answer or ideas.
My last day on the job is saturday. nothing to do with my mom. its the owners argueing and closing. What I am brutily aware of now more then ever is how much my time at work helps me with the stress at home. I have a knot in my stomach because for 4 1/2 years I was at home taking care of mom and I remember feeling overwhelmed most of the time. I share this for 2 reasos. 1 See your job as a break from your caregiving. Try hard to leave home at home. If you see it as a little vacation you might look forward to your time at work making it easier to seperate the two helping you focus at work. reason 2. as the other folks said. Talk to your boss. I bet they have or had a mother or father and will show compassion, understanding and flexability
Good luck and this site really helps me and can help you..
now keep in mind. I'm not a doctor but I did stay at a holliday inn express last night..lol
I know I should say your dad should come first. But if your in fear of losing your job which benefits your life. Than do your job first and find time for dad on your days off or after your shift ends. Don't ever feel your neglecting him. I am sure he would want you to maintain a job and income.
@lesl1234- speak with your office manager and be honest. Explain that you tried hard to balance the needs of the job and the care of your dad and that it has been rough on all of you. When you first started caring for dad, you had no idea how his condition would affect your life or the actual care that would be needed. Because dad's current care is exceeding your capabilities, he is being moved to an ALF that will be able to provide the care he needs. I'd also check with the HR dept- they may be able to reassign you or reduce your hours. Read your companies orientation manuel for procedures. Most states are fire at will- check to see what benefits you will get if fired (not if you quit). Also, do not think that because dad is in ALF you are going to be less burdened- make sure that they have a dr on staff and aides who can get him to his appointments. Show your boss that you are good to your word- ramp your focus while on the job and get your productivity up to speed. Good luck.