My mother passed away two weeks ago. I am a co-executor as well. Mother's well doesn't mention any of the gifts he has made. He says mother told him to do it. The money and jewelry all went to his old girl friends and people that work for him now or use to. Mother never told me about these gifts and we talked about everything right up to her death. I saw this co-executor nearly every day for the last 8 months when mother was in and out of the hospital and he never mentioned any of this to me either until he says the gifts were all made. There is nothing in writing that I know of either. Mother's will was really simple. All of her property was to be split evenly between my brother, my son, and my self.
The ladies are also blowing my mind. One is an attorney who did some minor work for mother. They knew each other thru her parents who shared horse racing interests with mother. You would think she would have had better ethics than to take mother's jewelry. She knows mother's attorney very well also. She knew mother rejected the changes mother was considering to her will. She didn't even discuss the "gift" with mother's attorney. The other lady is a pediatrician who also was a witness to mother's will. She helped to treat mother too. Here is another ethics violation. I am not vengeful but all of these folks need to know that I will not cut them any slack. I'm in a state of disbelief over how quickly they have put themselves in jeopardy over some jewelry. If they wanted big diamond rings they're successful enough to buy their own.
I'll try to keep this post updated. Thanks for your comments and letting me vent.
What is the meaning of the saying.?
Mu88
If the appointment language names them and indicates that they act jointly, then they must concur on actions.
Hmmmm.....I smell rolls baking in the oven.
I hope this narrative sort of answers some of the question that have been raised. My mother was not mentally well. Her doctor saw evidence that she had had as many as 16 mini-strokes. Her memory was slipping badly. She would tell the same story over and over again, 15 minutes after she had already told it. The co-executor and I talked about her state of mind many times. Other than the 30k that he paid himself for taking mother to the doctors and helping in other small ways, I don't think his actions have been selfish or malicious. He was just trying to make the world align with the way he thought it should be. I do think he has violated his fiduciary responsibilities and certainly betrayed me, my son, my wife, and my older brother.
I also have the same question as RM - how did this person gain access to such valuable jewelry? I would think they would have been locked in a safe in your mother's home, or in a safety deposit box. And how did you become aware of these acts, how long have you known about it, and what have you done to stop him? Have you considered an injunction?
Something's amiss here.
Mulatta, aw, shucks! I'm just sharing what I learned over the years.
I am in awe!
M88