My brother was horrible to dad before mom died. He was the poa at the time and stole everything. Now dad wants me to contact him and tell him about his latest health condition. He was horrible to me too and I dont want to have anything to do with him. But I don't want to let dad down. During my brothers time as poa he not only cleaned out bank accounts, he took all of mom and dads possessions. He was very hostile to dad, my sister and me. I'm torn. Part of me says send him a text or postcard and another part says to hell with him. Dad knows about the money but we didn't ever tell him about the stuff.
Sometimes it's healthy to forgive someone, but not restore the relationship. I understand if you're there. But I also understand if your father wants all of his children in his life. I can't imagine being estranged from my child.
I saw this the other day and it gave me a good laugh: Sometimes giving someone a second chance is like giving them another bullet for their gun when they missed you the first time.