Currently my 86 yr old mother has only 1 main contact person. This person is also Mom's best friend (her friend is 41). This person does not live here nor is a close relative. I on the other hand lives with my mother and other than when she goes to the doctors or I go to my doctors, I'm around her 24/7.
Mom's main contact person has convinced Mom that she doesn't need any body else to be added to her contact list. She wants to take center stage.
Is there anything I can do that could change this? I really don't want to eliminate Mom's best friend (because she drives and I don't) I just want to be added to Mom's contact list.
This would also help me to help Mom too in talking to the doctors and letting them know what she's doing and saying etc. and ask questions to the doctors.
I am hoping that someone in this group can lead me in the right directions. Thank you in advance.
You're her daughter; you live with her and in my opinion should be the primary contact. The out of town friend can be a secondary contact, but if there's an emergency, what can she do but call 911?