He has had 7 operations after a fall over 3 years ago.He continues to fall and injure the hip under his wife's care. My father's wife moved out and 2 hours away from him before his first fall. Since then, he has fallen with her and without her care. Here excuse for not caring for him is that she cares for her grandchildren (unnecessary), so she leaves him alone. He has just fallen again as his wife drove him to a rental property for him to work on it and left him there alone. This is a recurring theme with his hip injuries. I feel that he is being neglected; possibly criminally so.
Most Eldercare attorneys will provide a 30 minute free consultation. Perhaps you should bring your suspicions to one, along with documentation. You would still need to show, I believe, that an MD and/ or PT has stated that your father's ambulatory must be supervised and that his wife is leaving him unsupervised willfully.
1. Has an MD ordered that your father be supervised 24/7?
2. Has an M D said that your father may not walk without supervision ?
3. Is your father compliant with what his doctor orders ?
This site does not render legal opinions. We are caregivers, not lawyers.
I'm so sorry that you don't find this approach of asking for more information useful. I wish you and your father well.
Sorry we aren't agreeing with your postings.... this is what forums are all about, give and take.
What is their understanding of what level of care he needs? Does he accede to her care? Does he listen when she tells him to use whatever assistive devices he's been told to use?
Does he have a walker? Did he go to rehab to get back his strength after the surgery?
What are his doctor's recommendations for his care does he need 24/7 supervision? That can best be provided in a facility with three shifts of caregivers.
We're just caregivers, not attorneys or doctors. I'm not sure what kind of answer you're expecting here. We're giving opinions and asking for clarification, which is what thoughtful, caring people on this site do.
We just don't have enough information here to have a clear picture. Was Dad supposed to go to rehab after his surgery? Did he? Did he continue PT at home? Does he have any dementia? Are there other reasons that he shouldn't be left alone? Being 85 is not reason enough that he needs watching, although his circumstances might be. My aunt went to an ALF last month. Up until then she was living alone, with frequent visits from her daughter. She has had, over the years, both hips and both knees replaced. She will be 100 years old next month.
What would you like to see happen? Let's say his wife is found to be criminally neglectful. Say she is now out of the picture. What would you like for your Dad's care? Is that also what he would want?
More information might get you more helpful advice.
Possibly leaving him alone is neglect. Has a doctor order 24-hour monitoring for him? Besides his hip, what are his impairments?
It sounds like she left him and then returned after his disability? Is it likely that she prefers separation? Were they considering divorce?
Does he want her to be his caregiver? Are his other infirmities such that he should be in a care center? If the care he is getting is not sufficient, what about hiring in-home care?
If you really think he is being criminally neglected I suppose you could ask the APS to check on him, but if he is satisfied with the situation I don't know where that would lead. I guess all we can tell you is that falling is not evidence of neglect, so consider carefully what other ways neglect is evident.